As we listen to Barry Hall‘s vile comments about former St Kilda player Leigh Montagna’s wife giving birth, suggesting the obstetrician should touch her sexually to stimulate the birth, there is one glaring issue that everyone seems to be forgetting.
While it’s true that the comments Hall made are horrific, and demonstrate a complete lack of respect for women, the issue here is that the backlash didn’t come until the segment was complete.
As Hall spoke, every man that was on-air at the radio show laughed along.
Not one of them, not even Leigh himself, thought it appropriate to call the behaviour out. Not one of those men said “Mate, that’s not on” or “You missed the mark there”.
In fact, it’s critical to note, that what Hall said was part of a conversation. It was not entirely out of left field.
Read more: How Barry Hall’s “inappropriate” and vile on-air comment resulted in his immediate sacking.
When men (and in some cases, women) laugh, too afraid to challenge each other on blatant sexism – we are complicit.
While sacking Barry Hall is certainly the best course of action by Triple M, as it sends a clear message about the inappropriateness of his vile statement, it will not stop men from having these conversations when women aren’t listening.
In order for a cultural change to occur, men need to stand beside women as our friends, and have the courage to be the guy who tells their mate what they’re saying isn’t funny or okay.
In an interview with Fox Sports last week, former Sydney Swans player Brandon Jack said men need to step up and call out sexist comments when they’re made.
“As men, we don’t need to bond over demeaning women. We can literally talk about anything else,” he said.
“I think all men can play a role in making it better,” he continued.
We need men, like Brandon Jack, to be our allies, and laughing along perpetuates these problems in a way that sacking someone can’t even begin to fix.
Read more:
How Barry Hall’s “inappropriate” and vile on-air comment resulted in his immediate sacking.
How Australia is reacting to Barry Hall’s “utterly disgraceful” on-air comment.
Top Comments
Here lies the problem.....Not one of the men with Barry pulled him up on his comment. Not one of them told him it wasn't on. This is exactly why men think this behaviour is ok......because ALL their peers accept it. I'm sorry if you stand by and watch another bloke rape a women, you are JUST as bad as him. If you stand by and say nothing to a bloke saying disgusting things about a women you are JUST as bad as him. These men need to wake up and realise that laughing along to this type of thing makes you JUST as bad......they should all the sacked in my opinion!!!!!
The start of your argument makes sense but to then go on a stretch and conflate not engaging in verbal confrontation over a crude joke with participating in crime that attracts time in prison is a long bow to draw.
I agree with most of your comments except what people talk about when they are alone. No one has any right to police a conversation between people in private, offense is subjective, what offends you may not offend me. Unless you want to live in some sort of quasi orwellian dictatorship your just going to have to settle for firing people for saying stupid stuff.
Yeah, people should be careful what they wish for. Encouraging or expecting everyone to vigilante or moral police others when they are not directly impacted is the sort of thing that encourages vigils holding signs outside abortion clinics.