Sex and the Suburbs...

My family are white collar, comfortable middle class (just putting that in because whenever I tell my story people think my mum must have been a drug addict or struggling in some way or some other excuse) My mum had affairs when she was married to my dad - he eventually clued on and left her when I was nine. One of my earliest childhood memories is overhearing my dad talk on the phone about seeing my mums car at his friends house instead of work. Confusing for a nine year old. After they divorced she wanted him back but he was done so she's hated him ever since. Then when I was 18, I discovered (running into her in a seaside town where I was with my boyfriend) her cheating on my step dad (with whom she had a 6 month old child). I didn't say a work until he found out a year later. It made me despise her, despise myself for a little while. She left my step dad for this other man and denied the affair (which had been on for 3 years already), cut off all contact for 18 months. When he was discovered to be a gambling addict she came crawling back to my stepdad and they are now together. I love them both but resent them for the HUGE amount of damage that was done to our family. I think people who have affairs are selfish, reckless and thoughtless. I am now married with 2 children and the one positive from my experience is that I know I would LEAVE before I caused more emotional damage to my children (I'm not saying people don't make mistakes but a long affair or serious affair is plain disrespectful and disgusting). As a child of a woman trying to 'find herself' I say grow up, accept responsibility and put your children first.

I have a very loving husband and a really hot boyfriend / lover that my husband has met. My husband too has a girlfriend. We started out swinging with other couples but it didn't quite turn out how we wanted. Getting four compatible couples was near on impossible. We met a particular couple and the husband and I had an immediate attraction to one another. With the blessing from our mutual partners, we now see each other every week or so. People can say what they want but I believe we as humans were not built to be monogamous. My husband of 14 years and together for 17 still have an amazing sex life and share the intimate details of each others encounters and use them as a turn on for each other. My lover is amazing and in the short time together have had some amazing times together. We have set boundaries with each of our partners that we all agree on particular acts that won't be performed and kept sacred for our own partners. We have discussed emotional attachment issues but agree its about having mates with benefits...yes a fuck buddy! I have no desire to change my marital status, nor do the others involved. Sex in the suburbs, or in our case the small country town is alive and well! Im having my cake and eating it too with a very hot guy!