I can’t say I’ve ever done it myself, but carrying a tiny human inside your body looks bloody exhausting.
The morning sickness, the out-of-control hormones, the side effects, the extra weight to carry.
It looks hard, and as very reliable sources (i.e. pregnant women themselves) have told me, it is.
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Well, one man on Reddit (yes, MAN, AKA physically incapable of carrying a human fetus) insists it’s not THAT hard.
In fact, he’s gone as far as accusing his pregnant wife – who works 30 hours per week as a training physician – of being lazy.
Taking to Reddit with his conundrum, the man explained he currently works 55-60 hours a week, while his trainee physician wife works about 30. He also added that he earns at least $550,000 a year, and she makes around $60,000.
It is not confirmed whether he would like a medal at this stage.
“I want to support my wife as much as possible… but ever since we found out we were expecting, she has suddenly become very different,” he told the forum.
“She lost interest in work, we had recent fights about her wanting to quit medicine and stop working entirely to focus on caring for the kid. She no longer helps out around the home. I have to do all the laundry, cooking, dishwashing, trash, bathroom cleaning because she says she is tired all the time.”
That poor man.
He went on: “Finally… I blew up at her yesterday when she didn’t go out to pick up some groceries when I asked her to prior to leaving for work. I yelled at her that being pregnant does not automatically make you disabled and unable to do anything.”
Ahh, yelling at your pregnant wife. Always a good idea.
He rounded out the post by explaining that she had also bought an expensive stroller without consulting him, which added to his frustration towards her.
“I feel like I’m the one shouldering 90 per cent of that expense,” he added in reference to his salary.
“In any case, she got pissed off gave me the silent treatment since yesterday, am I the complete dick here for saying that or what?”
…Do you really want us to answer that?
Reddit users confirmed that he was, in fact, being a complete dick.
“Yes, complete dick, you need to give your wife a serious apology and take a more constructive approach to problem solving,” one said, adding, “She works 30 hours a week and is pregnant, is flooded with hormones and is probably a bit depressed, losing her drive for medicine with all the nesting instinct… As for the stroller, man WTF. You need to check your attitude about money quickly because that shit tears marriages apart.”
“I work 35 hours a week, am in my early 20s, and am NOT pregnant. I still get tired and groggy around my period, no less being actually pregnant. Guy sounds like a dick,” another added.
While one said: “Yes, you make 90 per cent of the money, but she’s shouldering 100 per cent of GROWING A NEW HUMAN IN HER BODY, plus the pain suffering and permanent changes to her health that will happen as she goes along. Oh, and the actual risk of dying during childbirth. You have no idea what this feels like from the inside.”
Many couldn’t get past how he could be complaining about a baby stroller purchase with his frankly enormous salary:
“To break that down, he makes $45,833 a month and is upset over a $1200 stroller. Wot?!” one questioned.
They went on: “Plus he – as a doctor – doesn’t care that his pregnant wife is tired and not working as hard as she was when she wasn’t carrying his child?!?! He makes more in a month than I do in a year. He could literally have a maid come in a couple times a week, order pre-made meals, and still have tens of thousands of dollars left over.”
Following the loaded responses, the man added an edit to his original post, asking for “some empathy”.
“Sure I might be the asshole, but give some empathy here. I might spend 55-60 hours at work a week, but guess what, I also commute about 3 hours total each work day.
“That’s 15 hours spent in rush hour traffic a week typically. And I often have night shifts that will exhaust me physically switching back and forth to days constantly. Add on spending an extra 12 hours of housework a week, where the f*ck am I getting good chunks of reliable time to decompress? Add also that I am an emergency medicine physician and the work is stressful and can burn you out easily. Note also that my wife walks to work because she hates driving so I agreed to it before we moved here for her fellowship training.
“And yes we currently have no student debt but guess who was the one that paid off 90 per cent of the hundreds of thousands in loans AND those of my wife’s? I did, by working my ass off.”
Again, it is not confirmed whether the man would like a medal for his achievements.
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Annnd that ladies is why you dont marry a mummys boy
I've never heard a man whinge so much about a problem he created for himself, by getting his partner pregnant in the first place. I know men that earn way less than you and work harder and never complain, marching on accepting their fate. Mr you've got all this money and your whinging about all the work you do; all the money you make, even going to extremes by making comparisons with your partner. Sounds like, all you care about is 'Money' and 'Work', which will kill your relationship. Time to get another job if it's such a problem, so you can have more free time on your hands or get yourself a House keeper, which wouldn't be difficult for someone with as much money as you. Anyway, you said 'you have too' with the house work, you don't need to do any such thing! No one's forcing you to do all the house work! Why are you torturing yourself. Why not compromise with your partner and say "from now own I'm doing my own laundry, my own cooking and my own washing up after my own mess. "Tell her to clean up after herself and do not touch any of her things or clean up her mess". My family always cleaned up after ourselves, which meant less house work. My Motto to my husband and daughter is "We are all Kings and Queens of the house". Meaning we are responsible for ourselves and cleaning up our own mess! Example: you used the Bathroom for a shower, brushed your teeth, shaved, etc... Then you clean your own mess up and don't leave it for others. That is fair! Be stubborn, Say, from now own I'm cleaning up my own mess and doing my own cooking and washing to free up the workload since we work different times, so don't worry about my stuff! Regarding money, the stroller isn't for her, it's for the child, which is your child. Don't be so Stingy! I guarantee you, if this worries you so much now that your whinging about it; wait till the kid or kids comes along and your paying for their clothes, food, education and other essentials with your partner. You'll be more than whinging than you are now!