A future bride has been slammed as ‘trashy’ after complaining about her engagement ring on Facebook.
A screenshot of the unnamed woman’s post has been posted on Reddit. In it, she expresses her disappointment at the pearl ring after her fiancé “finally” proposed, along with pictures.
“He pulled it out of his pocket and it took just about everything in me to not laugh and question whether this was real life or not,” she wrote.
Ouch.
She goes on to say that after wearing it for a few days, she’s “come to terms with it”.
“I definitely wish it was something different, but oh well.
“It was his grandmother’s and the pearl is my birthstone and I think that’s the only reason I’ve been able to tolerate it.”
Opinion on the post has been mainly negative, with most people questioning why she would share this to Facebook instead of talking to her fiance, even if they agreed that the ring was… unique. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
"It’s a terrible engagement ring (pearls are soft and should only be worn occasionally) but don’t post to Facebook about it. I hope he realises she will be doing this with all their problems and that’s super unhealthy," wrote one person.
"Giving someone an engagement ring without discussing it first, especially such a nontraditional one, is dumb. Complaining to everyone besides your fiancé about the ring he gave you is dumb. I reckon they at least deserve each other," said another.
Others said the woman's post - which was apparently posted to a private group about engagement rings - was a type of "group therapy", and not trashy at all. She will wear the ring for the rest of her life, so it made sense that she'd need to like it.
One user said: "I get that initially it looks like a dick move to shame a ring, but majority of the girls who self shame are doing it as a sort of therapy."
"She wanted to vent and get other people's opinion on the ring. What's wrong with that? She can talk to other people and her fiance. Maybe she wanted to get strangers opinions because her friends might be too nice to say that it's ugly," wrote another.
Do you think the woman has the right to be upset about the ring? What would you do in her situation? Tell us in a comment.
Top Comments
I agree, I think he should have asked her what sort of ring she wanted or maybe he was trying to save money and give her his grandmother's! This situation happened to me years ago. My fiance (now ex husband) AND his mother, tried to give me an engagement ring that belonged to his brother, so it must have been rejected by some ex fiancee of his brother, AND a gold wedding ring which belonged to his mother. I don't know why his mother had 2 wedding rings. Anyway, the wedding ring was about 2 sizes too big and really thick, as I only have small thin fingers. The engagement ring was too big as well. I felt rather insulted that they were trying to fob me off with other people's rejections, so I said that they were very nice rings, but they were too big for me, and not really my style, and that I would like to choose my own ring. They accepted that and I got to choose a more modern engagement ring. That was a typical situation actually in our relationship, he was mean with money, did things without telling me, and always had to involve his mother in everything we did. So just be diplomatic, say it's lovely, but not your style. Maybe it could be worn as costume jewellery?
If I were her, I would've told my Fiance' that it just isn't me. For one thing, just because it was his Grandmother's, it doesn't mean it's fit to be an engagment ring (that's a COCKTAIL ring, NOT an engagement ring). He should've asked her what she liked. She could've worded her post differently, but I can see where she'd want to vent and get others opinions.
And if i were her friend, I would've told her flat out that's it's ugly (it IS!!) and she needs to tell her dude it's not gonna fly. She's going to be wearing this thing presumably for the rest of her life, she has the right to get a ring that she likes.