Society tells me 'it's time' to have a baby. I'm a 31-year-old married woman, in a heterosexual relationship. That's just what we do, right? But I don't feel ready.
"Do I want kids?" It's a question rarely posed in public. In a pro-natal society, speaking about this decision feels really taboo. We live in a world that seems to celebrate motherhood as the pinnacle of womanhood, admitting uncertainty can feel like a betrayal of what is expected of us.
Some women are born to be mothers, but I've never related to that innate knowing. I mean, I have always pictured having kids. But is that society painting an idealised picture for me? Or is that what I truly want for myself?
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My life as it stands right now is full to the brim. I have a beautifully loving relationship with my husband, two dogs that I absolutely adore, my friends and family mean the world to me, and I've found purpose through the work we do at Kic, empowering our incredible community that they are enough, just as they are.
The thought of becoming a mum genuinely scares me. Last year, I opened up about my fears on a KICPOD episode, and I have never been so inundated with messages from women sharing how they relate to this feeling.
I had felt so alone in this thought process, when in fact, it is incredibly common. I couldn't shake this feeling, and with the biological clock ticking, it become all-consuming. I searched for content to help me unpack one of life's biggest decisions. And yet, I couldn't find anything.
I felt an innate responsibility to use my platform to speak about this publicly. And so, "Do I Want Kids?" the KICPOD mini series was born. A safe space to ask the questions we feel we can't ask, but are so important in shaping our decision.
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