I am in your very same situation! Christian orthodox with a Jewish boyfriend. Not to mention I'm also Arabic so that was one hell of an introduction to the parents! we've been together for almost 5 years now so I can definitely say we are serious! This has not been an easy relationship buti can tell you for the right person there's nothing more satisfying than knowing that at the end of the day love truly does conquer just about anything! You MUST discuss every aspect of how you will navigate your differences at some point. The way I did was to say- "im not ready for marriage but I know I want to be married to someone one day.i don't want to waste my time in a relationship I know won't end with marriage. so in case we do ever get married we need to be on the same page." There's so much advice I could give you! If I could put down my email here I would but unfortunately I can't! But just keep persisting in talking to him and know that the most important thing is that you both love Each other and we that we live in a world where these differences shouldn't even matter. Good luck dear!!
Abc....11 years ago
I think it all depends on how strong your faith in your religion is... If its something you whole heartedly believe in, than don't punish yourself, in the end if that is an integral part of you and your values which he doesn't share... Then no matter what you do, or how well you get along superficially, or however much fun you have... it will rear its head in your relationship, he will never really 'get' you. Nor will you ever really 'get' him.
On the other hand if your religion is just something superficial which you loosely identify with, then sure... go for it, as long as he feels the same about his religion.
Oh and you should be able to speak about anything... if its been 18 months and you feel the need to tip-toe around subjects with him (any subject, not just religion) then maybe you're not feeling like you can actually be yourself. He should be able to respect your questions and need for discussion, instead of dismissing you and ignoring it.
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I am in your very same situation! Christian orthodox with a Jewish boyfriend. Not to mention I'm also Arabic so that was one hell of an introduction to the parents! we've been together for almost 5 years now so I can definitely say we are serious! This has not been an easy relationship buti can tell you for the right person there's nothing more satisfying than knowing that at the end of the day love truly does conquer just about anything! You MUST discuss every aspect of how you will navigate your differences at some point. The way I did was to say- "im not ready for marriage but I know I want to be married to someone one day.i don't want to waste my time in a relationship I know won't end with marriage. so in case we do ever get married we need to be on the same page." There's so much advice I could give you! If I could put down my email here I would but unfortunately I can't! But just keep persisting in talking to him and know that the most important thing is that you both love Each other and we that we live in a world where these differences shouldn't even matter. Good luck dear!!
I think it all depends on how strong your faith in your religion is... If its something you whole heartedly believe in, than don't punish yourself, in the end if that is an integral part of you and your values which he doesn't share... Then no matter what you do, or how well you get along superficially, or however much fun you have... it will rear its head in your relationship, he will never really 'get' you. Nor will you ever really 'get' him.
On the other hand if your religion is just something superficial which you loosely identify with, then sure... go for it, as long as he feels the same about his religion.
Oh and you should be able to speak about anything... if its been 18 months and you feel the need to tip-toe around subjects with him (any subject, not just religion) then maybe you're not feeling like you can actually be yourself. He should be able to respect your questions and need for discussion, instead of dismissing you and ignoring it.