Last week, Mamamia ran an interview with Deborra Lee-Furness, who has just been announced NSW Australian of the Year for her work to change Australia’s rules regarding inter-country adoption. Our Weekend Editor, Amy Stockwell, who has worked in the development sector and has a Masters in International Law, has a different take on the issue. She’s not sure that making inter-country adoption easier, quicker and cheaper is necessarily the best way to go for the world’s most vulnerable children. Here is what she has to say….
By AMY STOCKWELL
It seems like such a simple proposition. There are too many orphans in developing countries who find themselves forgotten, living in crowded orphanages or barely surviving on the street. There is a large number of people in Australia who are desperate to be parents and are in a good position to provide for a child. Why not bring them together?
It’s an idea that is easy to just accept, especially when trusted, high profile people are telling you how easy it can be. But the reality is far from simple.
Earlier this year, Prime Minister Tony Abbott stood beside celebrity advocates, vowing to make the inter-country adoption system quicker, easier and cheaper. “The idea is we will make it easier and significantly less costly for Australians to adopt from overseas,” Mr Abbott said, announcing a new agency that will be designed to reduce adoption waiting times.
But while fast, easy and cheap adoptions may be in the best interests of prospective parents, it is not necessarily in the best interests of children. In fact, a faster, easier and cheaper system could actually put vulnerable children at even greater risk.
To that you might say: surely a child is better off in Australia than in the dire conditions of their own country? Yes, that child may be able to access a better education, a stronger healthcare system and greater physical comforts with a new family in Australia. But this was the same explanation that was given to justify the theft of Aboriginal children and the babies of unwed mothers that resulted in the lifelong damage endured by the Stolen Generation and children of forced adoption.
You might say: “But this is different! These children have no families!” Well, the sad fact is that we really don’t know that is the case.
Many adopted children are not orphans. A study by Save the Children found that as many as four out of five children in orphanages have at least one living parent. There are stories of children placed in orphanages temporarily during tough times whose parents have returned to find that their children have been adopted out.
It seems that poverty is the primary reason why children are in care – not death of a parent. Kirsten Anderson from the Coram Children’s Legal Centre, who has experience working with vulnerable children in Eastern European and Asia, says “a lot of the children I have encountered in orphanages around the world have at least one living parent or other close family member. Many are not living at home because their parents can’t afford to take care of them”.
Anderson is also concerned about the fact that developing countries can be a magnet for dishonest people who are eager to make a buck by exploiting desperate and vulnerable people. “Some adoptive parents are charged an average of 20,000 Euros by adoption agencies to facilitate an international adoption – but because of the large sums of money involved, children are at risk of being exploited for financial gain,” she says.
This is disturbing – but not altogether surprising. Any time Westerners turn up in a developing country with a need and a handful of cash, there will always be people rushing to meet to that demand – at the right price. Child trafficking is not uncommon in countries that are offering children for adoption – and those countries tend not to have the resources, the structures or the political will to stamp it out.
Overseas adoption can also drive children into orphanages – many of which are desperately unsafe. A 2002 study in Kazakhstan found that 63% of children in children’s homes had been subjected to violence, and a 2000 study of 3,164 children in residential institutions in Romania found that nearly half confirmed beating as routine punishment. More than a third knew of children who had been forced to have sex.
It’s also important to remember that even if children have no living blood relatives or have been permanently abandoned by their parents, they still have a culture. The primary response to orphaned children should be adoption or placement within their own country and their own culture – not immediate displacement to a foreign country. Amy Lamoin, a child protection specialist from UNICEF Australia who has experience working in Asia, Africa and Syria, points out, “South Korea, China and India have all moved towards limiting inter-country adoption”.
Children younger than two years old have a better chance of being re-homed within their own country – but it is often these children, the cute babies, that Westerners want. The children that are the most vulnerable are those who are older, traumatised, with disabilities or complex needs, but these children tend to be a less attractive option for adoption.
There is also increasing evidence about the life-long support that is needed by adopted children after they are removed from their own country and culture. Research suggests that adoptive children can often feel as if they are strangers in their adoptive families, and they are over-represented in mental health settings, courts and prisons. Far too often, the voices of adoptees are not heard in this debate. They are expected to simply be silently grateful for being ‘rescued’ – but it is clear that their experience is rarely so simple.
It is an absolute fact that there are millions of children around the world living in poverty. Through inter-country adoption, a relative handful might find a better life in the West. But as Lamoin says: “you can’t solve poverty one adoption at a time.”
Imagine if the money that is spent on inter-country adoption ($30,000AUD for each adoption in some cases), or the money that will be spent on the new agency announced by Tony Abbott, was spent on addressing poverty in these countries, in strengthening child protection systems, in improving education and health outcomes.
Imagine if every celebrity that helicoptered in and adopted children spent their money on improving the lives of many children, instead of one or two (or in some case four or five). Imagine that and you’ll see more children being raised by their own families, living safely in their communities, rather than seeing just a lucky few who are carried off.
It’s no accident that I have not yet mentioned the desperate desire that many childless couples in this country have to parent or the desire that good people have to help children in need. That is because, as moving and heart-wrenching as it is, it is largely irrelevant to this discussion. Inter-country adoption is not a family building service for people who want to have children but can’t through any other means. It is not the best way to help the millions of children living in poverty in the world. Inter-country adoption should always be an option of last resort for re-homing vulnerable children whose needs cannot be met elsewhere.
When Tony Abbott talks about making the process easier, faster and cheaper, he misses the point about the purpose of inter-country adoption. In the majority of cases, there is a reason why the system is slow. What may seem like bureaucratic red tape for parents desperate for a child is actually a system of checks and balances designed to protect children. The children who require our assistance are extremely vulnerable and will need ongoing support to thrive.
Perhaps, these processes could be streamlined, but they should always be measured, detailed and deeply considered.
Moving kids between countries should never, ever be easy.
Top Comments
Great article. Thank you. I agree poverty can not be changed one adoption at a time and inter country adoption is not a solution. It is a last resort. Always. But I think making adoption quicker, easier and cheaper on the Australian side is not the problem. The sending countries policies protect their children and make policies about adoption accordingly. Most developing countries ban inter-country adoption entirely except in unique situations. I care about this because I am worried about the kids.
We adopted two children from Ethiopia in 2012 (one died before we could get her out of Africa). Both our daughters lost both lost both their parents, but I was surprised (as you pointed out) that many children adopted through our agency have one living parent. Children are defined as "orphans" when they lose one parent in Africa. They are often living in orphanages because of poverty. However, just because the children are living in orphanages does not mean they are adoptable. The birth parents need to 1) relinquish to the orphanage and later 2) go to court to testify that they relinquish the child for adoption. These safeguards (and others) are admittedly fraught with difficulties
because of extreme wealth disparity between adopting families. But these
are the policies that are enforced and monitored.
If the child is not adoptable, then the child should stay in the orphanage. There is enough money to sponsor the child to stay there. Adoption agency fees pay for the orphanages (that is why so many have sprung up). Which brings me to my next concern. MOST of the funding for orphanages (in Ethiopia anyway) comes from foreign adoption agencies. Not the government. Not religious groups. If international adoption stops, what will happen to the kids?
I agree wholeheartedly that the 35USD families spend to adopt one baby could sustain 10 families for three years, keep them together and support them (if that is what they want). Adopting families who think they are saving the world really need to read this article and re-evaluate their motivations. To be honest, we were not thinking about any of these things when we adopted. We just wanted to to have children. I had never experienced extreme poverty and I did not understand its impact. But that doesn't mean inter-country adoption should be closed. There are still millions of children who need families--right now. I think they are better off with people who love them than they are in the orphanages--even if it is not a perfect situation. The monitoring needs to come from international cooperation with SENDING countries policies on adoption, Hague (if applicable) and other international treaties. The money is here. The people who want to help are here. The conversation is here.
It is not that I am pro-intercountry adoption. I am just pro-child. And I am writing because I care about the kids. http://www.politicsofplayda...
I'm not rich, I have birth children and a full life. I didn't decide to adopt because I felt my life was lacking or because I was a martyr. I saw a need for children to be included into a family, and identified that our family could give that love and make that difference to one person.
This year my daughter will be 12, the thought of her NOT being adopted strikes fear to my core. I cannot change social policy in China, but by adopting her she no longer faces the prospect of languishing in a Social Welfare Institute until she is old enough to be told she is a third class citizen and only fit for a life of crime on the streets or prostitution. How can that be better than being in a family with a brother and a sister, dogs and cats, and a Mum that would walk over hot coals for her? She is bright, musical, artistic and most of all an individual - not just an 'orphan'. And about that - she knows she isn't an orphan, she knows that in Southern China is her birth Mum and Dad, and possibly other siblings. We don't deny her that history, it isn't fair, I hope that one day China will be more open to reuniting Mothers and Daughters - for both their sakes.
Adopting a child - both within Australia and from overseas - is not for the faint hearted, but stop bashing those of us who only wanted to make someone's life less painful.The negativity is soul destroying, there are so many people who can make a positive difference, and by dredging up the same tired arguments about cash cow celebrities (who actually pour a whole lot more money into their 'chosen' country and the good of the remaining children without publicity) it puts prospective parents off. Do more research, talk to more of us before you write damaging opinionated articles like this.