Welcome to the most anticipated post of the week, not only because it heralds the start of the weekend but also because it is the post that really shines the light on the awesome community that is Mamamia. This is the place we come to share in each others highs and lows, we come to talk and vent and we come to support each other. It’s like therapy but without the cost.
If you haven’t taken part in best and worst before please join us today. Remember there are no rules (aside from our basic dinner party comment policy). Nothing is too small or too big, too inconsequential or too significant to share. Sometimes just putting your thoughts into words can have a wonderfully cathartic effect so sit down, read up and join in, you are welcome here. Which leads me straight to my best
Best: On Wednesday night I went to the launch of Jessica Rudd’s new book, Ruby Blues (sometimes I have to pinch myself to prove this amazing life I am leading is indeed my own) . It was amazing to be there in and of itself because I love every word that Jessica writes and I was super keen to see this book launched. But what really made the night so memorable was Jessica’s speech.
If you haven’t read the book Campaign Ruby you should, but you might not know that the main character Ruby is a British woman who overstays her visa when she comes to Australia. Jess spoke about the fact that if Ruby had been a Pakistani that overstayed her visa there would have been a huge uproar and debate would have centred around the fact that she was an illegal immigrant. But she was British so not an eye was batted. As Jess says on the Welcome to Australia website:
Australians are a welcoming people. It’s sewn into our culture. When I started at a new school I was assigned a buddy. When my family bought a house in a new neighbourhood there was a BBQ. When my husband and I moved to London there were Aussies everywhere to show us how to use the Tube and where to get Tim Tams. That’s just who we are, we want people to feel at home.
The wonderful people from Welcome to Australia were at the launch and we had our photograph taken with them. It touched me in quite a ridiculous way. Made me feel hopeful and that is always a best.
Worst: I may be the worst time manager in the world. Bar nobody. Why is it that I can never get into bed before midnight and I am always feeling rushed? It’s because I am a bad manager of time and now a very tired bad manager of time.
On My Mind: Making a conscious decision and determined effort to focus on how grateful I am for all the magnificent things in my life.
Also On My Mind: Why is my head cocked at such a ridiculous angle in that photo?
Over to you – what have been the best and worst bits of your week?
Top Comments
WORST.....my partner of five years has slept with another woman - numerous times. She rang me on Thursday night and told me the whole sorry saga.We were 'on a break' and hadn't seen each other for four months, however we were not officially broken up. We began a reconciliation process a few weeks ago to work things out - but then I found out he slept with her again during this time.
I've decided to forgive him and try to make our relationship work. After five years and many ups and downs, I feel it is worth saving and so does he. He is desperately sorry, has told me a thousand times how sorry he is, and ashamed etc. etc.
Thing is, I am now being judged by my friends who think I should dump him and move on. They think I'm nuts.
It's been a hell couple of days....
BEST: Ummm....at least my year 9 class were good this week :)
I'm so sorry, that sounds so painful. If you've made the decision to try again, I think you need to try and tune people out. It's so easy to say leave.... I've never been in your situation but I always used to say cheating would be a deal-breaker - and it still may be, but now we have kids, and a mortgage and a shared life etc etc, the decision would not a tough one... I don't think anyone knows what they'd do until they are there although I think it's quite easy to judge from the sidelines.
Good luck, look after yourself through this.
Always follow your gut. You know what is best for you, you're friends love you and don't want you hurt. At least you can say you gave it another try if it doesn't work out. There wont be what if's running through your mind. No regrets girl! Remember he was with another woman when you two were broken up and again when you were attempting reconciling. He didn't do it while you were together. Hope it works out for you both.
Since I already posted my worst, I'd like to share my best.
Today we bought our dream couch from King Furniture in red leather. I'm ridiculously excited. Doesn't arrive until January though, boo!
ooh envious over here!