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Teachers have absolutely had it. The viral response to a parent's wild request is proof.

We can probably all agree that teachers consistently go above and beyond

Doing overtime, buying school supplies with their own money... these are just some ways teachers extend themselves on a truly pittance salary.

But one teacher has firmly reached her limit around what's being asked of her outside of her job description — and she's calling it out.

Sharing a video on TikTok in a now viral post, Katie Larson has opened up about an incident with one of her students' parents that pushed her to the brink.

Teacher Katie Larson. Image: TikTok/@ktlarson27

At first, Katie thought that the parent had a fairly simple request, which she was happy to oblige.

"Yesterday a parent asked me for a class list so they can invite all the kids to the birthday party, and I'm invited to the birthday party too," she said.

"Very nice, [I] said 'no problem'. Today, the stack of invitations came and I was like, 'I guess I'll just put these in the mailboxes later.'"

Whilst Katie probably had plenty of other things on her to-do list, she was more than willing to place the invitations in the envelopes and pop them into each student's locker.

"So, no problem, we're outside all day," she said.

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"The last 20 minutes of the day, I was going to do it. I was going to stuff the invitations in the envelopes — stuff them because they weren't stuffed — and then put them in the mailboxes."

It was then that Katie realised she was being asked to do a lot more.

"I opened them up, only the first invitation was written on, none of the rest," she said. 

"That parent messaged me during the day with the information and I thought that was for me because I was invited. No — I was expected to write all the invitations."

Without ever being asked if she would be willing to take on this task outside of her actual job, Katie was understandably a little taken aback by the brazen display from the parent.

"No," she said. "I responded, 'I can't write all these invitations out', and I sent them home with the class list. Nope. Not what I can do."

Almost 500,000 views later, Katie's video has received a loud and resounding cry of support, with many jumping in the comments section to back her up.

Among the most common responses were people who agreed that this parent was incredibly out of touch and clearly had no grasp on the huge workload that teachers are tasked with each day. 

"Absolutely NOT," wrote one user. "The audacity is loud."

"What the heck made a parent think that was okay?" wrote another.

"I can't believe they thought you would do that," wrote another user.

Beyond the shock, however, was an influx of anecdotes from other teachers who had been asked to do similar 'admin' jobs for parents and — wow.

"Same thing happened to me!" wrote one user. "And then the day of, the mum sent an email to me cancelling the party and told me to tell the kids and their parents to just drop off the presents on the front porch."

"I once had a parent send in a whole birthday cake, no plates, no napkins, no forks, no knife," said another.

"I had a parent expect me to throw a party in-class for their kid," wrote one teacher.

Other teachers noted that they were often expected to go the extra mile on Valentine's Day in order to prepare gifts and cards for students.

"This happens all the time with Valentine's," wrote one commenter. "They just send in a sealed box of Valentine cards and expect teachers to write names on them and stuff them in envelopes."

"This happens every Valentine's Day!" wrote another. "It doesn't matter how many times I give the instructions. There’s at least one parent that sends in a box of Valentine’s Day cards, not filled out."

One teacher said that they now just flat out decline being involved in anything to do with students' birthday invites or celebrations.

"I refuse to take any part in birthday invites," they wrote. "It's not my job."

Honestly... we commend the excellent boundary setting.

The sad reality of Katie's TikTok is that it illuminates how overworked teachers are, and how tone deaf some parents can be regarding their roles and responsibilities.

Across the world teachers are lucky if they can get in a lunch break, let alone write out invitations for their students' birthday party.

Let this be a reminder that we do not deserve teachers and — louder for the people in the back — let's pay them more!

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tmcco87 4 months ago
Just heard you guys talking about this on the podcast. You talking about parents being busier now got up my nose. We have always been a household of 2 working parents with all the usual kids expectations and juggling so that is not new. We also didn’t have much support as our parents were still working so had to juggle and balance etc but I would never “project” and think these things are the teachers jobs.

d123 4 months ago 2 upvotes
Agreed these parents are placing unfair expectations on the teacher, however, this is happening because women are in these jobs. If this was a male majority job it wouldn’t be a thing. Why? Because a man would just say, “Yeah, No.” And, that would be the end of it. 

If the parent was to complain (unlikely as they wouldn’t expect a guy to do this) the man would matter of factly state, “it’s not in my job description.” If the complaint went further to the principal, he would repeat that statement. If the principal replies, “yes, but…” the male would reply,” well, if you want me to do this you need to amend my job description and remove the part where I am supposed to teach for that hour, which is it?” He might also add that he is calling the union rep in. 

The trick is the man would say all this without emotion, it would just be a statement of fact. He wouldn’t care less if the parents, other teachers, principal etc disapprove of him. He wouldn’t blog about it or tell his wife, as he wouldn’t care less about this minor annoyance. He would just move on with his day. 

This is where women need to take a leaf out of men’s books. They are unlikely to sack this teacher, so, she should say no and move on without giving it a further thought. If all the teachers did this it wouldn’t even be an expectation. 

I would add handing out Valentines cards to children is creepy. Valentines is for lovers not little kids. I would be refusing to do that for that reason. If modern families are into giving their kids Valentines cards that’s on them, not a creepy task for schoolteachers to adhere to. 
laura__palmer 4 months ago
@d123 Indeed! In fact, the salaries of teachers shrank as the job became more female-dominated. 
d123 4 months ago
@laura__palmer yes, it’s problematic. I think teachers should make overwork more of an issue, perhaps even more than wages, a condition that they are fighting against. As these ridiculous admin tasks are stealing their time and therefore it’s a type of wage theft. 

Another thing in Australia, TAFE teachers should be refusing to do the constant Certificate IV in Training and Assessment updates. It’s a terrible course, ironically for an alleged training course it’s infamously known in the industry as not making any sense and also teaching nothing of value. It’s actually just a money spinner for the industry, which why the higher ups defend it and force teachers to do the updates. 

I’ve known people feeling suicidal at the thought of having to do one of the frequent updates. The Teachers Federation should make it a condition that their members will strike if this course isn’t gutted. A training course for teachers is needed for newbies, but, it’s not this dumpster fire of a course that no one can make head or tail of, and, is just a get rich quick scheme for the industry. 
laura__palmer 4 months ago
@d123 
Another thing in Australia, TAFE teachers should be refusing to do the constant Certificate IV in Training and Assessment updates. It’s a terrible course, ironically for an alleged training course it’s infamously known in the industry as not making any sense and also teaching nothing of value. It’s actually just a money spinner for the industry, which why the higher ups defend it and force teachers to do the updates. 
YES! I could not agree more! It is such a waste of time, it is a terrible course and I know many great, long-standing TAFE teachers who have to jump through these hoops constantly, even though their tenure and outcomes alone should be enough to satisfy any audit. 

And I agree about the admin tasks, too. Once there were teacher's assistants to do that work, but that job has changed to mostly assisting children with learning difficulties and the slack has not been picked up by employing more admin staff, but rather lumped on the teachers.