Last night I lay awake desperately trying to work out how we will logistically pick up my son from primary school at 3pm every day for the next seven years.
After starting the school and child care pick up and drop off for the first time this year, the reality of this daunting daily task hit me and I panicked.
“Who can actually leave work at 2.30pm to pick up their children from school” I whined to my partner. “How on earth are we going to do this?” I moaned as I drew up a weekly family logistical run sheet that was so creative it would have rivalled a Baz Luhrmann script.
Suddenly while leeching outrage and anxiety about this new life dominated by school hours I got a grip and gained a whole lot of perspective.
The fact I am contemplating this new task as a “we” instead of an “I” means I have no idea what “hard” really is. I cannot imagine how hard it is to be a sole parent. I am not one. But here are some facts about them.
- Nearly 90 per cent of them are women.
- Almost one in four children from single-parent families live in poverty
- Since the removal of the sole parent payment last year, a survey by The Parenthood found 88% of sole parents were struggling to pay for groceries for their children each week.
Simply being solely responsible for the school pick up and drop off every single day is enough to do my head in. The 8.30 am drop off and 3pm pick up means you are left with around five and a half hours to work, study or cook, clean, and run errands.
As any parent knows, the chance of you being able to do any of the above while your children are with you is extremely limited. So as a sole parent you are left with roughly five hours a day to be your most productive sans children.
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I am at my wits end. I am a single Mum and I feel lucky to have a job but it has become increasingly difficult and stressful as a single parent. I have exhausted my sick leave and annual leave and often find it hard to find childcare with a changing roster and my employer just doesn't seem to care and won't allow me to change my roster slightly to enable me to pick up my child from school. It is just getting too hard and often wonder if my child would be better off without me. I catch myself thinking that with my life insurance my family would be able to look after my child and my child would even be financially better off and not have to miss out on anything like we do now.
I have been a single father of two for nearly 8 years now.
The single parenting help and requirements form our government is a joke.
With my children being of teenage years, I am required to work full time. This is an impossibility.
If I am at work from 7am till 6pm, who and how does the work of my parenting requirements get fulfilled.
I am struggling to find any work with in school hours. As they just do not exist. Also, employers do not understand the needs of single parents to their children.