I haven’t read Fifty Shades of Grey – the erotic story of the submissive/dominant relationship that is currently on the bookshelves and kindles of hundreds of thousands of women. But I do know about submissive sex.
I am a ”strong” woman! I am a mother, employed and putting myself through university. I work in a challenging environment and I would see myself as an independent, confident, positive, resilient women.
But like Anastasia in the book I have become a submissive woman; it is who I am and who I want to be. For me this is no fantasy, but a wonderful reality.
I’ve known this part of me for a few years. Through much exploration and reading I realised a few things about myself. I realised that I was unfulfilled emotionally and sexually. I knew that I could be turned on and reach orgasm but there was always something else there. It was through some internet searching and some wonderfully positive blogs that I found the world of BDSM and the role of submissive.
I think I need to make something clear. I AM A FEMINIST! I believe in liberation of the self and the freedom that removing social and institutional control will bring. I believe that there should be no social barriers to a woman achieving what she wants. I want a world without a sexist undertone and a world where we can all feel equal not just be told that we are. For me the relationship that I am in now allows me to strive for all of this. Defined from the beginning as a D/s (dominant and submissive) relationship yet as normal as anyone else’s. We have had every awkward moment that new relationships has and then some. We connect on a level that goes deeper than sex. I find his mind and attitude sexy and he says similar things about me. He makes me think about the world in a way that I’d never considered before and if I’m going to be really honest he just turns me on.
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Hi we are a dom and a sub looking for one more female sub in Perth but there doesn't seem to be anyone interested, would you care to be our play mate, a strong woman is very much a good thing, it brings a much more satasfying atmosphere as it makes me work to dominate hard, let us know.if your in
Question regarding BDSM. What is a woman to do if she finds BDSM a total turn off sexually while her boyfriend lives for it and wants nothing else in the bedroom other than BDSM?
Find a way to Compromise so that both of your needs/desires are met or find new partners. If you find something total turn off and that's all he wants, neither of you can be happy in the relationship long term.
I wish I was in your situation. I am with a guy who hates BDSM and I love it. It is the only thing that turns me on. I have told him that I need him to be dominant in the bedroom with me and he tries hard but he just doesn't like it. Maybe see if your boy will do vanilla sex sometimes with you? I have to do vanilla sex sometimes - I get drunk and try my best. I think it is about compromising and if one of you won't or is not able to - maybe you are just too sexually incompatible.
Hey Sara if you would like to have some fun we love it too, email me if you still don't have some play mates