The Project played a heart-breaking interview with Marco Bulmer-Rizzi tonight.
Marco, whose husband David tragically died in South Australia last week, is devastated.
“David was my everything,” he said. “David was my peace and quiet. The place where I was home.”
In response to Australian same-sex marriage laws which fail to recognise his marriage to David, Marco said he was ‘humiliated’. “It was the biggest slap in my heart.”
For many decisions after David’s death, Marco was forced to defer to David’s father. “I am lucky enough that David and I have what I would call a real family,” he said.
David’s organs have been donated to Australian’s in need. “I just keep going back to the fact that there are other families that are rejoicing, and if all goes well, they won’t have to live in fear,” said Marco.
“To know that his heart is beating, and that their are new memories being forged out of his heart. I am pissed off that they are not my memories.”
But for Georgie Coghlan, the idea that Australia will accept his organs, but we won’t recognise his marriage, is incomprehensible.
Mamamia previously wrote…
South Australian Premier Jay Weatherill has apologised to a British man for laws that denied his marriage and compounded his grief after his husband died on their honeymoon.
Last weekend, in Adelaide on the final stop of his Australian honeymoon, David Bulmer-Rizzi tragically and unexpectedly died.
The 32-year-old British citizen fell down a staircase at a friend’s home and fatally cracked his skull.
His husband, Marco Bulmer-Rizzi, told Buzzfeed News he was in bed when he “heard this awful noise and I turned on the light and he was lying at the bottom of the stairs in a blood bath”.
But dealing with the devastating loss of his new husband, a charity worker, was not the only pain the 38-year-old would bear.
Due to archaic laws, Marco was informed his husband’s death certificate would have ‘never married’ as his marital status, which meant Marco would also be denied ‘next of kin’ status and the rights associated with that.
Not only is same-sex marriage not legal in Australia, but three jurisdictions – South Australia, Western Australia and the Northern Territory – do not recognise same-sex marriages legally performed internationally.
David and Marco married last year after five years together.
All of the decisions Marco made around David’s death had to be approved by Marco’s father-in-law, Nigel Bulmer.
“I was completely overlooked,” Marco said.
“Every single question I was asked – whether or not I wanted David cremated, whether or not I wanted David to have a service, or be washed, even the cost of the coffin they were to use – after I gave my answer David’s father was consulted.