Feminism and women’s rights have progressed significantly in the last decade.
The gender pay gap is closing, the tampon tax was finally abolished, and the #MeToo movement forever changed the conversation around sexual assault.
But, for single women, there seems to be one major area that hasn’t caught up to 2020 feminism.
Modern dating.
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Now that dating apps are the norm, we decide whether we want to meet someone based on a selection of carefully curated images, and shows like The Bachelor and Love Island are among Australia’s most watched television shows, nobody knows what the rules are anymore.
Who pays on the first date? How long should you wait to have sex? Should you wait… at all? Can hook ups ever lead to love? What about marrying a stranger?
It’s confusing. And actually despite the fact that many aspects of dating – Tinder, reality TV shows, sliding into a stranger’s DMs – are so very 2020, it seems that many of the old-fashioned rules still apply.
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When I was 19 I slept with a guy the first night I met him..... been together for 21 years now.. happily married with two kids !!!
I'm a little sick of the word 'woke', I see it over-used by the left and weaponised as such by the right.
Opinion columnists writing for the Australian love to use it mockingly.
Oh, and sleep with someone when you know them or lower your expectations of outcome.
It was 'woke' that caught your attention?
I'm over here huddled in a corner trying to work out a Psycho Sexologist and the qualifications needed, which sounds rather Kathie Bates to me, but with a softer hammer
Woke is the same as the word feminism, to some it’s an empowering term of something great. However, if you aren’t woke or feminist it’s often a term of scorn or contempt.
It’s like calling someone racist. If you actually met a real racist and called them that, they’d likely just shrug and say, “Yeah?”
As for the article, what attracts a guys attention is often not the same thing that keeps it. Boiling it down, at some point he is looking at you as the mother of his children, exactly like one guy in the article alluded to. Now comes the conundrum, being a career driven woman does not help here if he thinks you’ll push the kids into childcare as soon as possible and be more focussed on the job than motherhood. Sorry, but I didn’t create society, it’s just the way it is.
The other problem is a supply and demand one. Women vote left, men vote right. If you look at the 2016 election in the US, I think 46 states majority of men voted Republican, 50 states majority of women voted Democrat. Woke activism says you could never date a Trump voter. Whereas conservatives don’t hold this is a rule. Given your average feminist ally isn’t top of the tree generally, woke women increasingly have a supply and demand problem. Not enough eligible woke men, so either accept dating a conservative or stay single. If you try to date someone and chisel away at their fundamental beliefs and outlooks, you may be in for an unhappy time.
Agreed on 'woke', not so agreed on the rest of the stuff.
I like women who are engaged with their job/career and it wouldn't factor into my assessment of a 'good mother'.
I agree that someone on the right is more likely to partner with someone on the left, than vice versa. My two bits here differs to yours and might be offensive - I think that, in general, tolerance plays a role in this decision. It's easier to live with someone with high levels of tolerance. Trump got voted in on a wave of racism towards hispanics, in general, Trumpers are going to hold intolerant views that are really going to grate on someone who doesn't judge people in that way. Commensurate levels of education and cosmopolitanism are also important in a LTR. I think that most people who have risen to success in industries where women are well-represented, are allies of women. Men who are not well exposed to women either professionally or personally can hold anti-feminist views. A fear of the unknown.
One major reason, IMO: Women are more likely to vote left because the left are not trying to reduce their access to modern medicine or introduce other restrictions to their lives. Pretty rational behaviour, really.
Interesting points well put. Not sure the anti feminist position is fully teased out though as a majority of women in Britain, US and here don’t identify as feminists either. I think that’s factor of the natural tendency of social movements to overreach. Same happened with climate change and refugee advocates. All these started addressing valid issues but ended up tanking by going too far. Only the Greens will openly touch boat people, the other parties know it’s now electoral suicide. Same with illegals in the US, Republicans openly encourage Democrats to talk about open borders and free healthcare for them as they know it’s electoral poison. I think Greta represented the high tide on global warming for most people.
Women definitely vote for free stuff whereas men vote more for freedom. The irony is Australia, US, Canada and UK are all in the top 10 most liberal nations on abortion. The majority of countries in the world do not permit it outside of special circumstances and then you had China who going the other way, used to enforce it after one child. It’s in the lefts interest to make out abortion is under a serious threat, it isn’t, to help keep the female vote. Virginia for instance, has been talking about post birth abortions in law, which is horrible and designed to provoke conservatives into opposition so they can claim abortion is under threat.
Another irony is the pro choice movement has a big supporter in the White nationalist movement as they know abortions are majority done with minority women. Georgia for instance, over 60% of abortions in that state are from the black community which is only 14% of the states population.