That being said, dogs aren't people.  I agree that owners should do their research and think hard before making the commitment of getting a dog.  But things happen.  Sometimes owners may unexpectedly find themselves in a situation where they cannot properly care for the dog, or perhaps they realise they underestimated the time and effort it would take.  The most responsible thing that can be done in that situation is to find a new home that can better take care of the dog.  That's better than leaving the dog neglected or dumping it at a shelter.

We got our dog through removing when the lady had a decline in health and the dog ended up growing much larger  than expected.  She was not a bad owner, she took her dog to the vet regularly for all the appropriate check ups and vaccinations and she vetted us thoroughly before rehoming the dog to us and let us know that if for any reason we changed our mind to return the dog to her so the dog wouldnt be at risk of ending up somewhere bad.  Doggo took exactly one week to settle in with us and has been happy ever since.

By contrast my neighbour has a small dog that she thought would be very low maintenance.   She got busier with work and she no longer walks her dog, she never got around to toilet training it because she works so many hours, so it lives in a small fenced off part of her back yard, she does not spend much time outside with it and when it started barking incessantly due to boredom she got a bark collar.  She feeds, worms and vaccinates it and regularly cleans its pen and gives it a bath, but that's about it.  Poor doggo would have be much better off if she rehomed it.  

Nobody follows beauty standards more closely than the figurehead of body positivity.

She follows every single beauty standard very closely (long, dyed, carefully coiffed hair, smooth blemish free skin, pumped up lips, botox, surgery to remove double chin, makeup, nails etc etc).  The only beauty standard she doesn't follow is weight.

Of course there are a bunch of beauty standards around plus sized models - same for skinny models.  You have to be more than just skinny to get booked as a "regular model too: you had better have symmetrical features, a toned body, no stretch marks or cellulite, straight teeth, perfect skin, nice hair etc etc.

You don't have to agree with these standards, but thry are what they are.

You keep repeating over and over again that it's OK your daughters aren't the conventional standard of beauty, buy clearly you really do care more than anything else.

Just be aware your daughters are very aware that you and your mother ( and probably your husband too) resent the fact that you don't find them beautiful enough and they probably have figured out that you trash talk them behind their backs.

One day you will be old, nobody will look at you as a beauty and you will be completely lost because you have very little else going for you.

Hopefully your daughters grow up to have identities rooted in something more meaningful than physical appearance (despite your disgusting example) and don't end up like their shallow parents.

I'm mostly just disgusted by mamamia for