A great article that rightly points out the division between those who have to live in it, and those who see it from the outside. I lost my wife ten months ago, just shy of our tenth anniversary. Every day is a struggle and a search for meaning again. I really like the idea of keeping track of the anniversaries so that you can help someone who is approaching that time.... They can be difficult and triggering..... But then, so can something as simple as breakfast cereal.