I’ve been in your situation, twice , with my Dad.
I made a decision to protect my children from the negativity of a relative who was never going to be consistent in their life, and could not accept them as they are. I don’t regret doing so.
And then we have those lovely single men out there who do have the qualities , we, women , are seeking. They say that they feel “too nice” for some people and that’s not what they feel females are looking for in a guy. Nobody wins !
When I was doing year 12 in 1977 I had a dream about a very close friend that I told my friends about on the Monday morning in class.