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sophierflood August 29, 2022

What isn’t in that list is gut microbiota, brain and system inflammation and vagus nerve tone (which is why movement seems to help so much with depression and anxiety). All of which are looked at by the holistic psychologist. The list above is pointing largely to external factors but there are also real bodily system markers for depression and anxiety which can be helped with supplements, probiotics, good diet and exercise and overlooking that feels like a massive gap… 

sophierflood August 8, 2022

@Laura Palmer I totally agree with you. The same thought had occurred to me which is that the nuclear family solution of women at home, man in the factory was a very recent and western one. Previously many human cultures were literal hunter gatherers with kids strapped on or when they were older being cared in groups for by teenage girls or “allo parented” by relatives and others in the tribe. I would really recommend the Gardener and the Carpenter as a book which is sort of anti-parenting-as-a-thing we should all master from an anthropologist’s perspective. I found it so refreshing. The fact is that there would always have been some people who want to be performing other skills (building, hunting, gardening, fighting in those pre-industrial cultures) and others would have enjoyed and done the caregiving for the young. Capitalism and the nuclear family structure has made the choice much more stark, so we are forced to do one or the other rather than some mixture of both. I’m a working mum, with a pretty flexible job as a lawyer and my kids are in full time care with people who are professionally trained, LOVE spending time with kids, have infinite patience to read and do arts and crafts with them etc. The time I have with them is much more fulfilling because I am intellectually fulfilled elsewhere and not drained by being on my own with them all day doing things I don’t love, and their lives are better because they get to be kids all day rather than hanging with a grumpy mum who has run out of ideas for activities (and doesn’t have a tribe to take over when she does).