Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck are officially over, following several months of speculation. JLo filed for divorce from Ben in August, after just two years of marriage.
In her first interview since the breakup news broke, Lopez spoke to Nikki Glaser for Interview about the lessons she's learnt in the past year. And she didn't mince her words in how she feels about the end of her marriage.
She said the release of her movie This Is Me… Now marked the beginning of her year of turmoil.
"I did all the work and look at where I am, and then it was like my whole f**king world exploded," she said.
Lopez hinted that she wished she had 'learned her lesson the first time', which sounds like it was directed at her reconciliation with Affleck, who she first dated in the early '00s.
"There's times when I thought I figured it out, and then life goes, 'Let's send you another thing and see if you fall for it. Let's see if you really have learned that lesson.' And I hadn't," Lopez said.
"That doesn't mean it didn't almost take me out for good. It almost did. But now, on the other side of it, I think to myself, 'F**k, that is exactly what I needed. Thank you, God. I'm sorry it took me so long. I'm sorry that you had to do this to me so many times. I should have learned it two or three times ago. I get it. You had to hit me really hard over the head with a f**king sledgehammer'," she admitted.
"You dropped the house on me. Don't have to do it again."
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Lopez hinted at troubles in their relationship.
"Somebody who truly loves you will help you heal those parts of yourself. That's what I've learned about love, that it is a secure thing. You make me feel safe, and when I fall short of the glory, you understand me and you help me to grow to be better, because you have your boundaries and I have my boundaries," she said.
Ultimately, the singer has decided she's happy being single right now and is "not looking for anybody" to date.
"It feels lonely, unfamiliar, scary. It feels sad. It feels desperate. But when you sit in those feelings and go, 'These things are not going to kill me,' it's like actually, I am capable of joy and happiness all by myself," she said.
"Being in a relationship doesn't define me. I can't be looking for happiness in other people. I have to have happiness within myself. I used to say I'm a happy person, but was still looking for something for somebody else to fill and it's just like, 'No, I'm actually good.'"
The Hollywood couple have been married for two years, tying the knot in a lavish Georgia wedding ceremony in August 2022, after eloping in Las Vegas in July to complete their legal paperwork.
In a move that had fans in a tizzy, JLo filed the divorce paperwork on Tuesday, August 20, on what would have been their second wedding anniversary. The singer listed the date of separation as April 26, 2024.
"JLo filed legal docs Tuesday in L.A. County Superior Court, but they were not filed by a lawyer. Jennifer filed pro per, meaning by herself and without an attorney," TMZ reports.
In one of the most interesting parts, the publication also reports that JLo's documents did not say whether or not there was a prenuptial agreement. She also went on to waive spousal support and asked the judge to deny Affleck such support as well.
The news did not come as a shock to most fans, given the couple listed their $68 million Beverly Hills mansion for sale in July.
The 12-bedroom, 24-bathroom house was posted for sale on MLS on July 11.
The pair first tied the knot back in July 2022, in a surprise summer ceremony at A Little White Wedding Chapel in Las Vegas. Jennifer looked stunning in a lace wedding dress, while Affleck was dapper in a white suit. The happy couple followed this up with a honeymoon vacation in Paris, alongside their children.
While the couple appeared to have eloped, they decided to do the 'big white wedding' as well. They hosted a three-day wedding extravaganza at Affleck’s plantation-style mansion in Riceboro, Georgia in August 2022.
JLo opened up about their nuptials in her newsletter, sharing, "This is heaven. Right Here. We’re in it now. The truth is, I never had one doubt. All week I felt the calm and easy certainty that we were in God’s hands."
However, in the time between their wedding and divorce two years later, the couple have been plagued by rumours that all was not well between them.
Now it's time for JLo to embrace her single girl era. Just like Ben.
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