'It doesn’t happen to people like me.' The stories we don't imagine when we think about domestic abuse.

Many years ago I lived with a dangerous man. That man was my husband. Within a year of my marriage he had encouraged me to leave my job, my family and friends, and my country. 

That comment about Priya’s husband having a warped understanding of money and not recognizing how much it costs to raise kids- that seems so common and I feel like it’s associated with people not fully considering kids to be people with needs.  It’s noticeable in the fuss so many make about child support. They resent it because they perceive it as money in their exes pockets, rather than food in their kids mouths and clothes on their backs. Some also perceive it as payment for services rendered - I don’t get to see my kids, so why should I have to pay for them? Because they still exist whether you can see them or not, and they still deserve to have their needs met.