This post originally appeared on Our Parallel Connection. You can read the original post here.
The first rule of parenting multiple children is to never admit you have a favourite child. Apparently, it is not appropriate as it might cause a rift in the family or affect the other children’s self-esteem. Well, I believe there is nothing wrong with having a favourite child and you should never be afraid to let your children know exactly who the favourite is.
When a woman has her first baby, she is madly in love and the child becomes the centre of her world. This child can do no wrong and anyone who says a bad word about them had better start running, fast. Her husband moves down the pecking order and so do her favourite girlfriends. Hey, she is a mum and this precious little being deserves her undivided attention. Until…
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As a Social Worker, I can assure you that there is everything wrong with having a favourite child and letting everyone know about it. Where do I start? Childhood feelings of isolation, not ever feeling good enough, being an outsider, unworthiness. Not to mention sibling rivalry, family bullying etc.
Having a favourite is all about the parent wanting their life to be easier and is selfish. Some children require more work than others and often it is because a child who feels detached from it's primary caregiver becomes more demanding and needy. Parents should just do the work and put in equally to all their children. Children are very vulnerable to parental inattention until aged 7 and often the damage is irreversible, no matter how hard you try later.
you should really lighten up^^ this is nothing but a light hearted story. If you read this as a negative story then you must be a pretty negative person. No need to put down someones creative writing.
Maybe not. But there is definitely something wrong with having one child as the favorite all the time and letting the others know about it. Thats emotional abuse, and no good parent does that to their children.
Read the post properly (that was written very slowly for you so you could understand) - she is simply saying it is ok to like your children differently at different times depending on their mood, behaviour, things that are special about them etc. Comprehension fail much??