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If you're feeling depleted this week, you're not alone. We're calling it the second-wave slump.

Do you feel it, too?

Exhaustion. Frustration. Sadness. Apprehension. A loss of motivation. A collective wince when you think of how gleefully we leapt toward the light at the end of the tunnel back in May, only to find ourselves here, just weeks later, staring into the mouth of another.

We were told this would happen; that our squashed COVID-19 curve would get out from underneath us more than once before a vaccine is available.

But it's still tough to watch the cases climb anew, to read lost human lives reported as numbers rather than names, and to see (or be!) Victorians placed under the kind of restrictions normally reserved for wartime.

It's heavy, the feeling that's settled upon us this week. A sort of second-wave slump.

Watch: A moment of gratitude for the unexpected upsides of wearing a mask. (Post continues below.)

As Melburnians put it to the Mamamia Out Loud podcast:

"I'm tired. I'm just tired..."

"[It's] a sadness, a feeling of demoralisation..."

"Everyone is really run down... Even the most resilient people are finding that's been depleted..."

It's not quite like before.

Back in March and April, we were apprehensive, certainly. But there was a sense of determination and a sense of unity; a "we're all in this together" kind of resolve.

That seems to have dwindled somewhat in the face of, well, all of it: the ebbing and flowing of restrictions; the selfish folk who flout them; the job losses and reduced paychecks; the shop doors closed; the return to at-home learning; the celebrations cancelled and re-booked and cancelled again; the tough conversations with kids...

As psychologist Amanda Gordon previously told Mamamia, it's little wonder we're fatigued when we've been running on adrenaline for so many months now.

"Collectively, we’ve been holding our breath, and we haven’t been living, in a way," she said. "'Normal' is changing, and people are finding it very difficult to adapt."

That change has happened faster and more substantially than most of us could have imagined.

Mamamia Out Loud chats to Melburnians about how they're feeling right now, then offers us all some light relief. (Post continues below.)


Just months ago, our state borders were little more than arbitrary lines inked on a map, only meaningful during footy season or for the occasional city-versus-city ribbing (Sydneysiders are snobs, says the Melbourne hipster). 

Now, they are walls, protected and patrolled. 

We peer over them, nervously, to see what's happening on the other side or, longingly, to catch glimpses of what might have been if it weren't for this or that.

But that's the paradox in this state-to-state division: in protecting ourselves, we're protecting us all. We are dividing so we can conquer.

There is simply no other choice right now; what's happening, must. So, let's take a moment to lift some of that weight off our shoulders and climb out of this slump.

"It’s time to breathe out and live life within our new parameters, which will actually be less exhausting," Amanda Gordon said.

"Allow yourself to adjust to a new way of being, rather than waiting until things are the way they were... Live in the moment, and find the joy in what you’re doing right now."

p.s. Victoria, we're with you. We love you. We'll see you soon.

If you're struggling with your mental health, or you're just having a difficult time and need to speak to someone, support is available.

Lifeline: Call 13 11 14
beyondblue: Call 1300 22 4636

Feature Image: Getty.

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iknowitsserious 4 years ago 2 upvotes
It’s not second wave issue. The issue is the persistent being told we can’t do anything. While it’s necessary, it doesn’t make it any easier. There are plenty who want to rebel (case in point the protest that was scheduled for this coming sunday) and while it’s never something I would consider, I don’t blame them for wanting to do this. It is not normal or natural to stay in ththe confines of your home for extended periods like we have been and have been told to continue to do so.  Months and months of lockdown do not make for good mental health. The tightening of the screws on this just add insult to injury. The vast majority of Victorians want to do the right thing and I like to think they are, but pretending it’s easy and pretending to tell ourselves we will get through it is painful, difficult and sometimes not enough.

grumpier monster 4 years ago
One of the things that make it easier is watching the daily press conference with Dan Andrews and Brett Sutton. I draw strength from their resolve and focus. Brett's kindness is also much appreciated. 

I watched it yesterday. I've been crying over it ever since. Brett wasn't there. He's taking three days off (which in my experience is usually code that he's having mental health problems).

Some of the media thought it would be useful to grill the Premier over the mistakes he might have made months ago. As usual he gave his calm, considered, and honest answers. Despite repeating the exact same information, the journalists persisted and then published that the Premier is incompetent and lying. For some reason I believed the Premier when he said he didn't have the time nor the necessary impartiality to investigate himself and his colleagues and that this was the reason he's immediately set up an inquiry when he realised the scope of the quarantine mistakes. A lot of people, especially my FB friends didn't believe him and have been slagging him off. 

I still don't understand why an acknowledged mistake from months ago is more important than understanding the details of the complex process of shutting businesses down, or why health care professionals are being infected from not wearing adequate masks, or why uber drivers are being forced to take people to covid-testing stations and sit with them in the car whilst they wait. 

It doesn't matter I suppose. Like most Melbournians I'm just sad, scared, and angry in equal measure. But seeing the credibility of Andrews and Sutton being attacked is like watching puppies being kicked because people are bored and frustrated. It's not okay. It does make me feel a lot worse.