Weddings are difficult enough without your fiancé dictating who can and can’t be in the bridal party. Especially when the person he doesn’t want to be involved just so happens to be your very best girlfriend.
Unfortunately, that’s the precarious situation one Reddit user now finds herself in, and her future husband’s reasoning is troubling.
“While planning our wedding, it has been brought to my attention that my fiancé does not want my BFF to be in our wedding,” the 32-year-old bride explained. Why? “Because she’s not attractive.”
WOAH. What?
“He says he doesn’t want her ruining our wedding photos and only wants attractive people in our wedding party.”
But... is your partner... a model casting agent or something? He realises this is a WEDDING, not a photo shoot for Vogue, right? Are all of his groomsmen the offspring of Miranda Kerr and Jesus Christ or something?
While the Redditor thinks the idea is "absurd", her partner's friends backed up his logic, and agreed that her best friend would be a terrible choice for maid of honour. Because of this, the bride-to-be has decided to leave her out of the wedding.
'I feel like my best friend will be assuming she is in the wedding party and when I don't ask her she will question it.
"I would feel horrible not asking her but I want to please my fiancé. I don't know how to handle this. Sadly, I don't have many girlfriends to pick from so I'm at a loss."
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The internet's response to the condundrum has been both swift and damning.
"I really don't understand why people think that weddings are some sort of beauty pageant," one angry commenter wrote. "The members in your wedding party should be close friends and people who've supported you through life, not a collection of models from GQ or Cosmo."
Others agreed, writing, "How could you do such a cruel thing to your best friend?" and "This isn't someone I'd want to get married to".
And, finally, what might just be the most epic comment ever: "The only person you're going to regret having in your wedding photos is your fiancé."
What advice would you give this bride?
Top Comments
My sister was left out of a wedding party for the same reason. Although it wasn't explicitly spoken about, ALL the other girls except my sister were in the wedding party. They are stunning girls. Its very hurtful behaviour and that friendship has now (predictibly) soured. Clearly if this bride is sacrificing her BFF's feelings for her partner's, its a pretty good future indicator of how that friendship will play out.
Not the way a marriage should start off! If the fiancee doesn't want the BFF of the bride in the wedding because she is not attractive enough, then the bride needs to start questioning why he is with her in the first place. Is he marrying her because of her looks or because he truly loves her flaws and all? Also if he forbids her to be in the wedding, what else will he forbid her to be apart of through out their lives? It's not worth it, either stand up to him and say she is in the wedding party or there is no wedding party, or spend the rest of your married life dancing to his tune and doing what he wants while giving up your own wants and desires, because that is precisely where this is headed. And who wants to live like that?