Yours could be a WhatsApp group with the girls you went to school with.
It could be a group text with your siblings and mum.
Mine’s a Facebook messenger chat with some of the women I work with.
Regardless of which app you use and who with, there’s a group chat every Australian woman will recognise this weekend.
On Thursday night, friends and I spent 20 minutes in a group chat making sure a mate got home safely. Status updates filtered through 30 seconds apart amongst general group chat banter and random conversations.
It’s scary just how normal it felt. As normal as talking about your crap day at work or sharing Instagram screenshots.
“Btw I’m in a dodgy part of Redfern walking…”
“Can we do anything to help? I’ll watch you on maps. Do you want money for an Uber?”
“I’m like 10 mins away. Ended up on a dodgy street.”
“There’s a suss man walking towards me.”
“Do you have your keys?”
“Across the street from my building.”
“Are you in your building or your apartment?”
“Home xx”
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I realised probably when Jill Meagher was killed that having the "home safe' arrangement doesn't offer any protection or actual safety, it doesn't make the journey home any safer. The only thing that arrangement achieves is that if someone gets you, the other party will find out sooner rather than later. Criminals are not deterred by their target messaging or calling a family member or friend many kms away.
The only button to hit on your phone if you are feeling under any kind of threat is an emergency app to alert police. I believe there's even a safety app that starts audio or video recording while dialing 000.
Remember, criminals who are waiting to attack are waiting for the right moment and spot where no one else is around. A park, a laneway, a deserted car park. Much more likely to deter them is if their target stays in well lit, busy areas, or involves another person (witness) who is right there in the same place, such as a passerby or shop assistant. If you feel truly threatened, go into a kebab shop a 7-ELevven, a noisy pub where there are people. If you've been followed, tell the manager, ask for help. Or even move towards the road where there are cars, taxis, trams, cyclists. Wave someone down and make noise to attract attention, be too much work from the outset. The criminal is likely to not bother after that.
Essentially, make a scene and have the struggle in public view, don't ignore a pest, or just politely fob them off or 'get busy' on your phone to disengage, only to struggle in isolation if they're waiting around the corner.
my girlfriends and i have been doing this for years - just because we care about each other. We wait for each other to get an uber or cab, we text each other while we're in the uber or cab (sometimes sending the number of the cab) and then we text when we are home, safe inside our house. i think it's just what women do - whether we've been conditioned to do it or not. i also do this with my male friends - i always say, let me know when you get home safely. i like to know all my loved ones are home safely.