“I’m not going to bull***t you… I f***ing adore you Michelle and I think you’re the prettiest looking girl I’ve ever met. But my mind gets turned on my someone slimmer.”
This is part of the lengthy letter Michelle Thomas received from a man she’d been on a date with.
The pair met on Tinder. They went on a date, had a few drinks and some dinner, “strolled arm in arm”, kissed at a train station and went home.
“A fairly standard pleasant evening,” as Michelle described it on her blog.
Then the next day, Michelle received a letter from her date.
He thanks her for a wonderful evening. Told her he adored her. And then proceeded to tell her that her body wasn’t attractive enough to him.
“I’m not going to bull***t you… I f***ing adore you Michelle and I think you’re the prettiest looking girl I’ve ever met. But my mind gets turned on my someone slimmer,” he wrote.
“So whilst I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality (and God…I really, really am), I can’t say the same about your figure. So I can sit there and flirt and have the most incredibly fun evening, but I have this awful feeling that when we got undressed my body would let me down. I don’t want that to happen baby. I don’t want to be lying there next to you, and you asking me why I’m not hard.”
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“I’m so disappointed in myself Michelle because I’ve genuinely not felt this way about anyone in ages, but I’m trying to be honest with you without sounding like a total knobhead.”
The aformentioned knobhead then offered to be Michelle’s friend.
“I would marry you like a shot if you were a slip of a girl because what you have in that mind of yours is utterly unique, and I really really love it.”
“I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’m trying to avoid bigger pain in the future by telling you now so we don’t have to go through that embarrassment. I’m a man… With all the red hot lusts of a man and all the failings of a man and I’m sure of my own body and its needs.”
After receiving the letter, Michelle was in a “flood of tears”.
But she decided not to let the letter defeat her.
She decided to publish a response – and now it’s going viral.
“You don’t have to fancy me. We all have a good friend who we look at ruefully and think ‘you’re lovely, but you just don’t tickle my pickle’. We wish we were attracted to them, but our bodies and our brains don’t work like that. And that’s fine,” Michelle wrote.
“What isn’t fine is the fact that, after a few hours in my company, you took the time to write this utterly uncalled-for message. It’s nothing short of sadistic. Your tone is saccharine and condescending, but the forensic detail in which you express your disgust at my body is truly grotesque. The only possible objective for writing it is to wound me.”