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Ten years ago, journalist and editor Farrah Storr decided she didn't want to be a parent.
At the time, Storr was deep in the world of glossy magazines. She loved her job and wanted to climb the career ladder. She was also married to her husband, Will Storr, a fellow British journalist.
"It was a very simple exchange," she tells Mamamia's No Filter. "I walked into his home office and just said, 'I'm not sure I want to be a mother.' And I remember his response was, 'Good, because I'm not sure I want to be a father.'"
Up until the age of 36, Storr had always been interested in motherhood. She and Will had even been trying for a baby for three years, though without luck.
IVF was the next step, and while looking down the barrel of hormone changes, career sacrifices, relationship strain and constant rumination on pregnancy, Storr felt she "wasn't up for the job of doing it". Their romantic life had been marred by conception sex too.
"It's very mechanical, isn't it? There's a very big goal at the end of it, so of course, it takes all the emotion and enjoyment away."
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Even once the couple had decided to be child-free, the uncertainty didn't immediately subside.
They had no blueprint for what a life without kids in it might look like. So they had to create one themselves. It's exactly what Storr has been doing for the past almost decade — writing about being a non-parent, and detailing why more and more women are choosing the same path.