by ELISSA RATLIFF
Welcome to Best and Worst, the place where you can share the best bits and the worst bits of your week with the Mamamia Community.
It doesn’t matter how big or small your story might be…
We’re all ears.
For me this week has flown by in a rush of study, Adam Hill’s awesomeness (if you haven’t seen this video yet, watch it, it will make your week or month ) and catch-ups with friends.
Now that it is Friday I feel like I can finally breathe – in fact I almost feel like running up a hill, spinning around and breaking into song while wearing a pinafore, Julie Andrews-style.
But for now, I think I’ll just let you know what the Best and Worst bits of my week were, and then I’ll hand it over to you.
Best: I feel I have graduated with a big gold start into adulthood – and before you start rolling your eyes, hear me out. After a year of living by myself I decided it was time to stop eating $7 Thai takeaway, pasta and tuna every night for dinner and actually attempt to make something.
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Worst: Another week with no teaching job leads. Went for a interview for a non-teaching job and was refused because they know I'm also looking for teaching work. So I'm in between a rock and a hard place right now.
Best: Um, JODI. PICOULT read one of my blog posts. Not that many people READ my blog, but I did a review when I finished reading her latest book and tagged her in the tweet with the link, and she replied "Thanks for the kind words" which she ONLY would have known they were kind by READING it. As she is my second favourite author (after JK Rowling), I kind of died a little.
Side note- everyone should go read her new book THE STORYTELLER because it was amazing.
Best: Kids healthy and happy. Also changing around some insurance companies so have saved a bit of $$
Worst: Bills, bills, bills - huge ones came through this week.
OMM: feeling as I get older am becoming much less tolerant of friendships that don't make me feel good. I have a 10 year friendship with a friend who makes me feel increasingly bad about myself, she has been with her new man for a few years now and she has changed since being with him, snobbier. Her kids are now attending a private school and all I hear now is how much better it is and how more advanced her daughter is doing now she is no longer in a state school. I dont have the means to send my child to a private school but will do my utmost to support him and will get a tutor should he need it. Want to distance myself from her but its just so hard as we see each other regularly.
Oh, that is awful. I'm sure your son will thrive at his state school. Take no notice. You sound like a wonderful mum
You need to find a way to tell your friend how you feel. At this point it seems like you are considering not saying anything and either unhappily continuing, or just cutting her off. Take the middle road, it'll be tough but you'll feel better for telling her why. She will have a chance to realise what she's doing and maybe change, or if not, you'll be glad you said it. Maybe don't use the word snobbier, as it'll get her defences up. Be gentle but pretty direct. Say something about what you have valued about her friendship most of the time you have known her, and that you're disappointed to find that you're not enjoying her company as much because.... (reasons). Say you'd like to work through this bump. Be prepared she may be immature, and just lash out and say some nasty sh*t if she's feeling rejected, just to sting you. I've seen it before. You take the high road because if she does that, she's justifying that her behaviour has become disappointing.