Hey ladies, guess what? Vulvas and labias don’t all look the same.
I’m often shocked women know so little about what is considered ‘normal’ down there.
Yet the number of women going to their GP to ask about cosmetic genital surgery has increased so dramatically, the Royal Australian College of General Practitioners has introduced world-first guidelines to help doctors navigate women’s concerns about their genital appearance.
Personally I’m not against plastic surgery. Genital – or anywhere – for that matter. I figure if it makes you feel better and improves your self-esteem, go for it.
So when I had a girlfriend confide in me that she’d had an appointment with a plastic surgeon to have labiaplasty, I was not going to judge. After three natural childbirths, her vulva ‘innie’ was now an ‘outie’ and she hated it.
Thanks to the tearing, her labia minora was frilled and extended, she said. As she bluntly put it: “It looks like sea anemone”.
It was upsetting her so much she wouldn’t let her husband go down on her and didn’t even want to have sex with the lights on.
She hasn't had the snip yet - but she has my full support.
Dr Ginni Mansberg disagrees and applauds the guidelines.
"I'm not opposed to plastic surgery, but I am opposed to women not being happy with body parts that are completely normal," she says.
As you can see from the video, I only started educating myself recently. After filming I crouched over a mirror in the bathroom.
Just like bellybuttons, some people have 'innies' and some have 'outies' - and both are completely normal.
Dr Ginni says there are a number of reason in that women don't know what 'normal' is.
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"Firstly, it's due to the rise in access to pornography. Women in pornos tend to vary little in the way of labia minor. If you compare yourself to a porn star - and your labia is more than a couple of millimeters long - you will feel inferior or abnormal and worried you are going be unattractive to the opposite sex," she says.
Dr Ginni suggests all women use the internet for good rather than evil, and do a bit of research.
"I highly recommend www.labialibrary.org.au as it's classy without being pornographical and scientific without being ugly. Go on that site and see how different normal vulvas can be," she says.
I'll send this to my friend - but I'm not sure if it will change her mind.
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