It appears vegan-shaming is finding itself in a new territory after a bride has claimed she is considering cancelling her wedding after many guests have told her they will not be attending because of the vegan menu.
The mother of the bride, Kathy Craig, has taken to online forum mumsnet to share the predicament, asking fellow users if she is being “unreasonable” by being “p***ed off” with her daughter and her wedding.
Craig wrote that although she has enjoyed spending time planning the wedding with her daughter, she believes her daughter is being selfish in refusing to cater for all of the guests invited.
“My daughter’s wedding is this summer, we’ve been planning it together for months and we have genuinely had a good time doing so. However, my daughter is a vegan, and she is adamant that the wedding also must be vegan. This is fine with me, I support her wish and this is for her to decide,” she wrote.
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“We sent the invitations [and I thought it would be a good idea to include the information about vegan catering on the invitations] and we have had many RSVPs basically saying they will not be coming if the food is vegan.
“I have to say this was unexpected, many of the family are quite traditional, meat-and-two-veg, but I did not expect this to be such a problem.”
However, Craig said the issue is growing so out of hand that now her daughter is threatening to cancel her wedding lest her guests decide to come and partake in the vegan wedding.
“The thing now is that many of the guests are refusing to come, and my daughter is not willing to budge.
“I personally don’t see the big deal in catering for everyone’s tastes, it was a bloody nightmare to book the vegan caterer.
“I’m really getting frustrated, yesterday my daughter said she was thinking of cancelling the whole thing and thinks the guests are being unreasonable. Maybe I should not have put this information on the invitations?”
Overwhelmingly, those who have joined in on the discussion have taken aim at the bride’s guests, arguing that although you might not be thrilled with someone else’s food choices, it’s ultimately their wedding and their day.
"I think the guests are the ones being highly unreasonable, not your daughter. If anyone was so rude as to refuse to come to my wedding because of a tantrum over food, I wouldn't want them there anyway," one user wrote.
Another user agreed, writing: "What a load of bloody ungrateful people that they can't entertain the thought of eating ONE meal that doesn't contain meat!"
However, a few did say they believed that writing the information on the invites was not necessary and just ignited unnecessary conflict.
"I wouldn't have put the information on the invites. Just gives people an excuse to be fussy," one user said.
Who knew people would go to such lengths to turn down free food and drink?
Top Comments
Why did you even feel inclined to share that the menu was vegan, as though you wanted to turn it into a spectacle? If it were a meat eaters wedding,would you have written that it was a 'meat menu' on the invitation??? NO?...
Perhaps YOU were the one not happy with the idea of it being a vegan wedding and thus, ruined your daughters big day, because you simply felt you HAD to include that on the invite, no less.
If people had attended the wedding and the reception, I guarantee they would have LOVED the food, regardless if it were vegan.
But thanks to your moment of selfishness, you have ruined the biggest day of your daughter's life. Mother of the year award, I think not!
I would NEVER EVER do that to my daughter, announcing something that DIDN'T need announcing, just so she could be judged and shamed.
SHAME ON YOU!
I hope your daughter cancels the wedding, and marries her partner far far away from you and those horrible judgemental people!
Almost everyone has had a vegan meal at some point in his/her life, whether it's peanut butter and jelly or hummus with carrot sticks. You wouldn't think it would be THAT big of a deal to have one more.
Maybe it's because a lot of people just don't know what to expect when someone says "vegan." It isn't only salad and tofu. For example, a few years ago, we dragged my meat-and-potatoes loving cousin to a vegan potluck, and he kept telling his wife he would need a cheeseburger afterward. Yeah, OK, OK, OK... An hour into the potluck, he was requesting seconds of the chili. No cheeseburger needed! Then, he turned to us and said, "Well, good food is good food!" His wife and I looked at each other as if to say, "Who are you, and what have you done with (my cousin) over the past two hours?"