We need to put less pressure on women about fertility – not more.
One of Australia’s most high-profile couples, The Biggest Loser coaches Michelle Bridges and Steve “Commando” Willis, made a very exciting announcement last week: they’re expecting their first child together.
Bridges, 44, is 18 weeks pregnant and due to give birth before Christmas. In an interview with Who magazine, the 12 Week Body Transformation founder said she feels “very lucky” about conceiving naturally at an age where it can be difficult.
“But I also feel all of my years and all of Steve’s years of looking after ourselves and taking care of our health and our bodies, it just goes to show. For someone my age, for it to happen so quickly, it’s obviously got to do with good health,” she said.
Bridges is clearly elated with her pregnancy, as she rightly should be. Pregnancy is always a big deal, especially for a woman over the age of 40 — unfortunately, at this age the chances of natural conception are lower than five per cent.
However, in an interview with The Glow journalist Tracey Spicer — who experienced fertility problems in her thirties and eventually had children through IVF — said she felt it was “a bit irresponsible” for the popular fitness guru to suggest health and fertility over the age of 40 were so closely linked.
“[The comment is] so wrong and so judgemental, it makes women feel worse when they’re trying to fall pregnant. I’ve got nothing against Michelle, and I’m all about supporting all women, but it’s a bit wrong,” the 47-year-old Sky News anchor said.
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People sit there and tell women, "your highest goal and purpose in this life is to bear and raise children..." and then expect women to be tots cool with life if they can't have kids (heaven forbid they ever look to the men for the cause of those problems with not being able to have kids; JS and his lack of progeny in spite of his philandering with 30 or more survivors of his predatory practices, comes to mind).”Your purpose is to have kids". "Your life's purpose is to bring children into this world”. "Your main goal should not be education, but having kids and raising a family". "Without kids you're worthless...".That's what it translates into whether they mean it to or not. I had to watch it destroy my friend as they were tried for several years to try to get pregnant. Then those assholes put her in the primary as if being around kids would magically make us want to have one (assumptions on their part). Wished to help I even booked tickets to Ukraine. I was planning to grad her ass and put into plain in order to attend Kiev reproductive medical center. It was perfectly fine place, with low prices and high demand of visitation by patients. But they gave up thus trip to the Biotexcom clinic was postponed. A woman's worth is not in whether she can have kids or not. There's more but I'm too goddamn angry.
Its really simple, Dont wait until you are old to have a baby . Chances are you wont get your baby. Rant over.
Not that simple at all really. Some women don't find a partner until they are older, some have medical conditions, some have ill family to care for, some just aren't ready. There are many reasons why someone may delay having children and one should not be quick to judge them or say they should just have them earlier.