When it comes to being a bridesmaid, behind the blinding excitement of impending nuptials and bearing witness to a loved one on a happiness trip, there are some things that kind of, well, suck.
Like money and time and energy. And the fact that although you really love your friend/sister/cousin/loved one, they still have the power to be unreasonable or shake you well from your comfort zone core.
So, we searched far and wide around the Mamamia office and beyond, to find out exactly what bridesmaids wish they knew before they stood beside their friend at the altar.
The cost
Ah yes. The dollar, dollar bills chestnut. Because as we are all very well aware, weddings aren't that cheap. And the bridal party often bear the brunt of that cost.
"Basically I paid for everything for her hens - which was two nights in the city - and spent over $1000. I stopped counting when it hit that mark, too depressing," Georgia said.
"Don’t even get me started on this," Amanda said. "When I lived in the UK I was a bridesmaid twice and another in Australia! This year I have a destination wedding in France and I'm actually looking forward to it even though the cost all up will be near $6,000."
Meanwhile, Nikki was a bridesmaid back in university, and did not have the funds expected.
"I was a bridesmaid in Palm Cove when I was a university student. It was the best fun and a great wedding, but the cost blew me out of the water. I was a uni student and I had to pay for a dress, my hair, makeup, shoes, a gift, accommodation and flights. It also didn't help it was during peak season and we were expected to go out for dinner every night."
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I was surprised to read that the bridesmaids have to foot the bill for a lot of these costs. When I got married 20 years ago, it was the norm for the bride to pay for the hair and makeup, dress and bouquets. She would also buy the bridesmaids a present. There were a lot fewer "destination" weddings back then as well and the girls night was usually just that - one night, no fancy hotels, no weekends away, no spa treatments. Glad I am past the "bridesmaid" age. Hopefully by the time my daughter gets there, the pendulum will have swung back again to a more affordable build up and wedding.
Can't believe these girls were expected to pay for things like hair, makeup and bouquets! I feel guilty about my bridesmaids buying their own dresses and shoes - but I tried to make it easier by picking a colour I knew both liked to wear and telling them to just pick any dress they liked in that colour - one of them fortunately already had a dress, the other did buy one but I thought at least they could choose something they liked and would wear again (and could work to their own budgets). I'm paying for hair, makeup, bouquets, transport and I've bought each of them a little gift. The girls are staying at my parents with me the night before (mum and dad kindly providing food) I've also organised the hens party myself but picked a venue that is $29 a head for the banquet option (was hopeful that would be an affordable option for most). My bridesmaids didn't have to do any planning (not even the dress... my mum didn't want anyone to see it but her). Who are these high maintenance brides?