By KATE HUNTER
So, an English teacher on New York’s affluent Upper West Side is in big trouble because she asked her ninth grade students to write a suicide note.
Before you yell, ‘whaaaaaaaat?’ let me explain. The kids weren’t being asked to pen their own suicide note, but that of a character in the acclaimed novel The Secret Life Of Bees.
The New York Post reported:
Newbie English teacher Jessica Barrish’s assignment focused on having kids channel fictitious character May Boatwright by writing in first person — as if they were her — about her legacy and how they wanted to be remembered by her sisters.
“How would you justify ending your life? What reasons would you give?” the project asked.
Some parents weren’t happy:
“We were pretty stunned at the scope of the assignment,” said a father of a ninth-grade student at the school. “We thought this was such an outrageous assignment for a 14-year-old to get,” he added. “We pay a lot of money to send our kids to the school.”
Ahhh. Right. I’m not sure what he meant by that. Are kids at cheaper, or (gasp) public schools are better able to cope with suicide-themed assignments?
School fees aside, I get why parents might have been upset – the topic of suicide is confronting at best, and at worst, could trigger self-harm in a child who’s already deeply troubled.
Still, part of me thought the parents over-reacted.
In my role as a *ahem* novelist, I spend a fair bit of time talking to high school students about reading and writing stories. Most of the time the kids are happy to listen to me. Or at least be physically present. It means they’re not in maths.
If it’s a writer’s group or an English extension class, getting kids to write is easy-peasy. It’s getting them to stop that’s hard. A regular English class is a tougher nut, and you have to work hard to get them involved. So I can see what this teacher was doing – trying hard to engage her students, help them get under the skin of the character they were trying to understand.
Teenagers (most of them) love to write macabre stuff. It’s a default position for their writing.
Ask a dozen teenage girls to write 200 words from the perspective of a nun in the eighteenth century, and I guarantee at least ten of them will have that nun wanting to top herself. One will have her in love with a monk in the neighbouring monastery and the other will write about the nun joining a brothel.
All completely normal. Misery is more interesting to read and easier to write than humour or adventure. And it feels sooooo important.
But could an assignment like this one it make any difference to a child on the edge? Someone who’s really in trouble?
Simon Critchley — a philosophy professor at The New School university in Greenwich Village who recently taught a suicide note-writing workshop for adults — told The New York Post he believed the concerns, even for young teens, were overblown.
“I don’t see why this is inappropriate at all. If it is, then suicide is a taboo, and I simply think we have to think rationally about our taboos. I think it might even help students acquire a more mature and reflective approach to a hugely important topic.”
As a writer, I was with Simon Critchley.
Until I called Tim, a friend who’s also a psychiatrist. He works with adolescents and has three kids aged 9 to 19, of his own.
“Interesting one,” he said, “There’s no doubt writing is an excellent form of self expression, and it could help kids share what they’re going through, but if the teacher isn’t trained to recognise and handle a kid in trouble, it could be very dangerous.”
Tim told me over 50% of adolescents have considered suicide or self-harm and up to 10% had attempted to hurt themselves. Scary numbers. Real kids.
“That’s why,” he said, “There’s a blanket ban on media reporting of suicides. Teenagers kill themselves in clusters. An assignment like this offers some kind of social acceptability.”
“So you’d say it’s a bad idea?” I asked.
“I’d say be very, very careful. Therapists with years of training can struggle to identify and help these kids. Unless a teacher is up to it, it might be better to set another assignment. ”
So that’s where I’ll leave it. A well intentioned idea by a hardworking teacher. But risky. Risking kids lives. Not worth it. Choose another assignment.
What do you think?
Top Comments
I think it's actually a really good assignment. Suicide is not really spoken about in high school, or at least not where I went, and something like this could be a great opportunity to open a discussion.
I can understand why parents and others would be concerned - if the teacher gave the assignment and left it at that, I can see the danger. But, if the topic was then openly spoken about and resources for help identified, I think it would do some good.
Besides, read any Shakespeare play...suicide, incest, murder - you name it, you can find it in Shakespeare.
Also, I recall studying 'Looking for Alibrandi' in year 8, where John Barton killed himself right before HSC exams - that is VERY relatable for teenagers. I haven't read 'The Secret Life of Bees', but I imagine this assignment would have been good for Looking for Alibrandi
I think the psychiatrist is right. It's just too risky a subject. I remember taking my then 14 year old son (I guess that's the age 'year 9' students are in the U.S) to see 'Dead Poet's Society." When one of the main characters, a high school boy, committed suicide my son was extremely shocked, his face and body posture radiated that shock. I remember reaching quickly to hold his hand. We watched the rest of the movie together and when it was over we went for dinner and we talked through what life situation and relationships with others led to his committing suicide.
I listened hard to my son so I could answer his questions to the best of my ability and I voiced questions I thought he might have been thinking, too. Over the next few days he talked about it with me a couple of times until he moved on.
I must admit that it was a very good movie but that I could have done without the suicide for my son's sake. But to this day both my son, who is in his late 30s now and myself think this movie was an excellent one, regardless.
Now, are the movie makers responsible for any consequences the movie might trigger? I'm not a school teacher but am pretty sure I'd never get a group of adolescents to right a suicide note as a school assignment. It would be in my power not to and I'd choose not to. I would worry about consequences but I'm a worrier generally. But I'm left wondering what makes it okay for movie makers to approach this subject and leave the audience hanging with sad and possibly dangerous emotions?
I watched that movie in high school! It was a while ago now... but we did an English unit on the film. It can't have impacted too greatly because I don't remember much of the 'learning' however the teacher was very open about discussing all themes explored in the story and that boy's suicide would have been dissected.
Watched it at the same age, teacher fast forwarded through that part and didn't explain what happened so many of us were very confused by the rest of the movie. I wish the teacher had of shown it and spoke through the issues.
I believe it is important to show suicide in film, many deaths each year are caused by suicide and simply leaving them out altogether is a poor reflection of society and hides away a very real issue.