“After handing the baby to the nurses, I talked to Wendy. I told her that I had some very unfortunate news. I then just simply told her that her baby girl had no arms and no legs. Wendy looked at me for a few moments without saying anything, as if she were processing what I had said. Then she said: ‘We’ll just have to look after her very well then”.
Dr Ron Dickinson, had stepped in to deliver baby Lyn in 1962 when Wendy Rowe’s usual doctor could not be found. It was the pre-scan, pre-ultra sound era, and Dr Dickinson had no inkling of what had befallen Lyn.
Fifty years later he was moved to tears while telling me how the baby had emerged first with no arms and then with no legs as a result of thalidomide – a drug prescribed to Wendy and many other women at the time to prevent the effects of morning sickness during pregnancy.
After Lyn was born, the doctors and nurses had urged Wendy and her husband Ian to put their baby in an institution. “She won’t survive for long,” they said. “Forget about her”. “Go home and look after your other girls”. “Try and have another child as soon as possible”.
That didn’t happen. Instead, Wendy and Ian took Lyn home from hospital and took care of her. Full-time, round-the-clock care, often exhausting, sometimes backbreaking, always loving. Lyn needed help with everything, and always would. Eating, drinking, toileting, washing, dressing and every single other mundane detail of daily living. Without limbs she could do almost nothing for herself.
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In 2012, more than 50 years after Lyn’s birth, thalidomide giant Grünenthal finally got around to issuing an apology for the devastation caused by its drug. While the apology was something, the excuse for taking five decades to say sorry insulted and infuriated survivors around the world.
“We ask that you regard our long silence as a sign of the silent shock that your fate has caused us,” Grünenthal’s boss had said.
From a company that had taken 50 years to choose its words, it was an outstandingly poorly judged public relations exercise.