“I tell her to take the dog with her. That way, she’s got a reason to come home.”
My brother’s words were an indication of his helplessness as a parent. His fourteen year old daughter, my niece, had been diagnosed with clinical depression.
It was easy enough to look into the probable causes. There was the marriage break-up, the trials and tribulations of puberty, a genetic disposition toward depression and the struggle to find one’s place in the maelstrom of peer pressure and personalities that make up school and domestic life. What was not easy was finding a solution. My niece not only took the family dog with her whenever and wherever she walked. She also took the ‘black dog’ with her whose jaws and teeth had a vice like grip on her thoughts like a malicious pit-bull.
The reality is that the incidence of adolescent depression is increasing. Research indicates that the average on-set age of depression in 1960 was thirty years or older. Today it is fifteen years or younger. The irony is that we live in an age that is far more affluent than fifty years ago. We are healthier, better educated and benefit from the advances in attitudes toward gender and race. The prevalence of depression, therefore, has people stumped.
My neighbours suggested by way of explanation that children are over-protected and are not prepared for the shock of life’s realities. This conversation took place just before they walked their children to the local primary school.
My sister suggested that it was all the violence and chaos that children were exposed to on television that was the disturbing element. But her children have viewed what she had viewed and they seemed to be fine.
We have chemical anodynes as a form of remedy. SSRIs or selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors provide a regulated dose of serotonin to the receptors in the brain. It can help restore the chemical balance. Our bodies are an upheaval of chemicals; endorphins, adrenaline, testosterone, progesterone. Imagine what an adolescent body is like as it goes through puberty. The dose needs to be constantly regulated.
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Ella,
You are so brave. Thank you. I wish my old friend (died weeks after her 21st birthday) could have come through and reached the point where you are now. Your insights have now helped me understand and accept a little more what things must have been like for her, 6.5 years after the fact, in a way that no-one else has been able to.
Willaway, and Flowers in the Spring, thank you for your very good advice. Adolescence can be such an isolating experience even for the most healthy, socially connected teen. I completely agree that we need to be doing a lot more as a community to skill our children for resilience and positive neural pathways from as early on as we can.
okay this makes me angry, yes im a teenager and all my friends say i need to go to a guidence councler but that is not going to happen, im telling you, if a teenager girl dosnt speak to u about wats wronge, then just drop the subject, if she tells the wronge person she gets alot more apset, dont ever tell her to write all her probs in a book, last time someone told me to do that i was crying when i was writing, and all the cr@p about medication NOOOOO that is not the right thing to do, my freind has depression as big as mine, she is on medication, she wants to commit suicide, me, im not on meds, my probs r in my head, havnt told a soul my probs and im doin fine
Hi Tegan,
From some of your comments it sounds like it would be a good idea for you to talk to someone in your life, not just people online. All of the ladies on here have been teenage girls and know what they are talking about. It is very important that if you have a friend who is considering suicide that you tell an adult. You could be key in saving your friends life. It is also important that you don’t tell people, your friends or peers that medication and counseling are bad. You need to be a Dr or a psychologist to make those decisions. Do you have a teacher, an older friend or maybe a friend’s mum you could have a chat with? I am a teacher of girls your age and can assure you we are always ready to listen. It seems like you are on he because you are looking for guidance and that’s fine, but do see if there is someone who knows you who you can talk about this stuff with.
All the best!
im not depressed, okay, im sorry for the comment i was in the middle in the dream and my brother woke me up, u know how that feels, right? well, its hard to explain, im not depressed,i, i have a crush, okay, i like this guy and i have liked him for a while, and everyone says theres something wrong, see when i have a crush i go silent bc i dont stop thinkin bout him. plus i would rather share my feelings online then in the open, like facebook.
Yeah I agree it's easier to share stuff here than on F.B.