Do you remember the time you lost your virginity? Were you crippled with anxiousness and embarrassment?
It would appear that Hollywood has given us a completely unrealistic concept of what sex is like, and thus precisely none of us were prepared for the awkwardness that sex would bring.
When an AskReddit was created proposing the question, “What surprised you about sex the first time you had it?”, the answers were, as always, brilliant.
“It was way less amazing than I expected it to be. In the movies it’s like this huge event and you are forever changed after” shared user LittleGamerBrat. “In the end, the only movie it was like was Forrest Gump where he gets tired of running. ‘I’m feeling pretty tired….Guess I’ll go home now.'”
And then there was Dapharaoh, who had this to say: “Some girls’ step dads don’t like to find you on top of them.”
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I laughed when i read the awkward one. It was awkward for me too. I was in the backseat of a Ford Mustang. Very tiny backseat. Very awkward positions and getting out of the car after was a lesson in contortionism.
Is choking seriously a thing that women are wanting? Surely this can't be common??!
Not sure if it’s something people have always been into but now feel more able to be open about, or if it’s one of those things people see in porn, think everyone is doing, and do it because they think it’s expected of them.
I am 37. I wonder if under-25s (who grew up with online porn) feel that choking is par for the course, along with anal sex and removal of all pubic hair at all times. Not to mention innie labia minoras, and filming or photographing sex.
From what I have read, observed and experienced in my 21 years of sexual activity (since 1996), there has been an enormous rise on the expectation of these aspects since around 2005.
People said much the same thing about oral sex.
It hadn't lead to the downfall of society just yet, I think it will be fine.
I'm 21 in a few months, been sexually active since I was 17...and yeah. What's 'expected' of me in bed is really different to, say, what my mum tells me she grew up with, and I kinda hate it, to be totally honest. I mean, it all sort of goes by the by when you've got a great partner who's willing to communicate openly with you about what you do and don't want to do RE sexytimes, but the amount of time I've run into jackasses who just EXPECTED me to do/like something without so much as even asking if that was what I wanted and made me feel inadequate, weird, or uncomfortable for not doing so is disappointing. I guess that's part of the whole sexual learning curve: keeping in mind you're not abnormal or what have you for dis/liking doing something or having something done to you, and having hard limits is more than okay.