Today, October 15, is International Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. This article discusses stillbirth and infant loss and may be triggering for some readers.
Amelia* gave birth to a much-longed-for daughter on February 19, 2018; but she never got to meet her alive.
Lily* had been delivered stillborn at only 20 weeks; and her mother left heartbroken.
But not only did Amelia grieve the loss of her daughter, she also had to deal with the expectation from her employer to return to work almost immediately, because her maternity leave policy, in their opinion, didn’t apply.
The situation eventually led Amelia to make a personal submission to the Senate Select Committee, which was established in 2018 to investigate stillbirth research and education, in an attempt by the federal government to reduce the national stillbirth rate – which is six a day, and has remained unchanged for 20 years.
“At my morphology ultrasound, I was informed that my baby girl had severe neural tube defects – also known as Myelomeningocele Spina Bifida,” Amelia explains.
“Lily was a strong, beautiful girl and is my proudest achievement, even if she was only here for a short time.”
Before Lily was unexpectedly stillborn, Amelia had agreed upon a “very generous” maternity leave package with her employer.
“I planned to take 12 months off.
“A substantial amount of that would be paid. I would get 16 weeks’ full salary, and then superannuation for the entire time.”
But that never happened, and instead, Amelia’s maternity leave was cancelled “during the worst week of my life”.
The grieving mother returned to work just five days after cremating her daughter – two weeks after she had given birth.
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Today @sandsaustralia hosted events celebrating friendship inviting bereaved parents to come along and bring a friend who has been a great support to them after the loss of their baby . Sands runs many events throughout the year to support families after the death of a baby during pregnancy or in infancy and additionally run a 24 hour national support line for bereaved parents Ph: 1300 072 637 . In October during Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Week @sandsaustralia will also be holding national events at which families and their friends can come together to remember and celebrate their babies. This year in South Australia @adelaideoval will be lit up in pink and blue ???????? For a very special walk to remember by the River Torrens ???? . Items for the Adelaide event were generously donated by @jurlique @nepenthewines @tuckersnatural @udderdelightscheese @beerenbergfarm