It’s a polarising yet personal dilemma: Should you have sex on the first date?
The overwhelming response you’ve no doubt received is no, you absolutely should not. For we women, you see, should have more self-respect than so frivolously being intimate with another human.
We should keep them guessing, leave it to the imagination, make them work for it… or so we’ve been told.
But new research is questioning this message, suggesting sex on the first date may actually have benefits in the long run for forming an emotional bond between prospective partners.
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This 'science' doesn't cover that the connection can then be harder to break when you discover you're not all that compatible in the long run when you actually get to know one another.
It's got it right that sex enhances a relationship - but isn't it better to have that experience once you're a little more certain you want that person to be significant in your life on more than a physical level?
I agree. As a man I find it messes with my decision making about a women when I take her to bed on the first date. More often than not I realise I actually don't want to continue a relationship with her, yet because we had sex an attachment has been created and it is much harder emotionally to break that, people get hurt and it is messy. I now see sex as a glue, and I take the view that one should be mindful of who you 'glue' yourself too.