It is my prediction that 90 percent of men’s stomachs will react to the idea of period sex like they were going through horrible turbulence after eating airplane food. My recommendation is to ask your boyfriend what he feels. If he is up for the idea, tell that pervert to go jump in a lake, preferably one filled with blood.
Right then. Predictably, Tracey gives a more considered response.
Today’s question:
“I’ve been married for 29 years and am 49 with three children all grown up. During my periods my husband still demands sex. They only last two to three days but are extremely heavy due to me being pre-menopausal. This causes friction between us as he has a high sex drive. I don’t feel great during this time and just want to rest my body. He tells me I am selfish. He thinks that other sexual duties should happen which I agree with however I feel drained by my situation. We have an excellent sex life other wise.”
Tracey Cox says:
“Emails like yours astonish and worry me. They astonish me because I find it hard to accept there are still marriages functioning under archaic rules like this, even though I know there are plenty. I worry because I wonder what else you have been putting up with. Do you feel you have any rights at all in this relationship or is he the boss in everything, including sex?
You’re daring to ask to be excluded from any sort of sexual activity for a mere two or three days a month? Dear God, men everywhere are throwing their hands up in exasperation, wishing their wives would even do the opposite: grant them sex more than two or three times a month! It is totally normal and acceptable for you to want to abstain from sex for those few days, especially if your periods are heavy and you don’t feel great.
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Thank God for this post! My soon to be ex-boyfriend asks for sex on my period. When I mention that I'm not comfortable or don't want to he suggests anal sex or blow job or other sexual acts....and of course gets upset or angry if I don't. I am not into period sex or anal sex. I think it's downright disrespectful to demand sex or get upset if someone is not into it. When I'm not on my period we have great sex. On my period I feel gross, emotional and just want to be loved in other ways. I usually end of feel useless and horrible and unlovable because all I get is a pissed off angry person because he didn't get his way. No one should feel bad for not being in the mood for sex, period or no period. If you're with someone who is not into period/anal sex then you should be mature enough to respect their feelings and decision and love them in other ways. Connect with them on another level. Some men are just disgusting and insensitive.
This article seems one sided to me. Should a man "demand" sex? No, not at any time of the month. And neither should the woman. But a good relationship is all about communicating and finding good compromises. Sometimes if person A wants sex and B doesn't, regardless of the reason, person A will have to do without it. At the same time, person B should also be not just willing but excited to have sex once in awhile even when not in the mood as a way of showing how much he/she loves person A. Compromises need to work both ways.