Sarah Silverman is 45 years old and has never had children. In a new interview she admits that while she struggles with that at times she understands that women just ‘can’t have it all’.
Silverman spoke to Marc Maron on his WTF podcast about being in her forties and not having children.
"I'm 45 and I don't have kids and, you know, when you're a woman, I'm finding out - you get so much pressure," she said on the podcast.
The comedian says that she has a desire for children, but also loves her current life, and all the successes she has had.
"It's a sadness for me because I love kids. I ache for kids...but I love my life more. You can't have it all; you really can't," she said.
Silverman opened up about the pressure she gets as a middle-aged woman who hasn't had children yet.
"I got two emails within the span of a week, two weeks ago, from people in my life, who I don't necessarily know really well, who just out of nowhere said, 'You should really have kids'...It's such an odd thing to put on someone," she said.
The actress pointed out that it's extremely insensitive to probe with questions like that because no one knows what you're going through or about how sad you may already feel about not having kids.
She also highlighted the inbalance in the pressure put on men and women when it came to having a family.
Men can be a 'fun dad', women can't.
"I can be a fun dad, I feel totally prepared for that...but I don't have the lifestyle conducive to having kids the way that I would want to have kids," she said. "I have no regrets, or no sadness about it."
Even though in 2012 Silverman said she didn't want kids because of her depression, the actress has since changed her mind.
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In October last year Silverman wrote in Glamour saying, "a few years ago, I casually said something in an interview about being afraid to have kids because I might pass depression on to them, but I don't know if I feel that way anymore."
She continued to say she would hope to think she could do therapy to get through it.
"A part of me is baby crazy. A part of me goes, Why not? And every day I add 'Freeze eggs?' to the end of my to-do list. Then it keeps getting passed on to the next day's list. Maybe I'll adopt," she told the magazine.
Silverman is currently dating actor Michael Sheen.
How do you feel about the pressure placed on women to have children?