It wasn’t what you’d expect…
Making the decision to go back to work after I had my baby wasn’t an easy one. In fact, in a lot of ways it wasn’t really a decision. Once my maternity leave was up I needed to go back to work for financial reasons and like a lot of mums, I struggled a lot with the idea of leaving my little one behind.
For a year it had been just the two of us during the day. I took a while to adapt to my new role but slowly we fell into a rhythm and spent our days exploring and learning. I was all too aware of the timeframe we had together so I tried to make the most of it. I was lucky to be able to take that amount of time off to be with my child because I know that’s not the case for a lot of women – but still, time seemed to fly by.
Before I went back to work I looked into a thousand day care options and put my son’s name down at any that looked decent. I’d heard that day care could be hard to secure so I was thrilled when my mum offered to look after my son until a position became available. By the time he started formal day care, both he and I were better able to manage the separation and I felt comfortable with the staff and the loving, friendly atmosphere that he was in.
Just as an FYI, you should know that this post is sponsored by Open Colleges. But all opinions expressed by the author are 100% authentic and written in their own words.
What I didn’t expect to be as hard though was my transition back into work. I had been with my employer for over six years. I was established and had a lot of friends but yet, when I returned from maternity leave, it felt like a lot had changed and that I had been left behind.
Friends that used to work in similar roles to mine had progressed with their career and there were new people I didn’t know everywhere.
I felt stuck in many ways. I was in no position to ask for a promotion, having been off for such a long period of time, but it was hard seeing others get promotions that I perhaps would have got had I not left to have a baby.
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Once you're in the workplace it's on-the-job performance that counts, and secures promotions. Most employers don't give a hoot about your commitment to exta study, they're usually quietly against it, it's seen as something to distract you from the job they're paying you to do.
Very good. I once lost "points" at an interview because I worked part time, studied part-time and looked after my pre-school kids. Apparently really committed professionals work full-time and study part-time whilst raising pre-schoolers. The presence or absence of a partner made no difference. Real professionals can do everything.