I wish I had read this 2 years ago when published, I'd like to think it would have given a unique perspective to a hidden truth - separation was new, I was naive, too trusting to know any different and still giving ex-narc the benefit of the doubt. 

Years on I feel empowered with knowledge, now divorced, and recovering. I have lost so much, some of it I miss, most I don't anymore. 

I realised that working on myself, protecting the kids and rebuilding is hard enough.... and so not having support from family and loved ones adds to the trauma. 

Their disbelief sets you back and for me it caused terrible anxiety and conjured victim like behaviours in me I have been trying to overcome - people pleasing. walking on egg shells to manifest when in their company. 

I have tried silence to no avail, initially trusting that my character would stand for itself..... then gave time for them to slip up and show real self.... then waited for them to see his lack of integrity ... evidence of them manipulating children....  manipulating the justice system,.... I am shocked at what is condoned and their support of that behaviour.

Now at the point, the stark realisation they really don't know me, perhaps have BPD or other narcissisrtic traits, I am the scapegoat and need to decide on future contact... in a way that works for me. A long, sad and hurtful process.

Thanks for the article, I could relate.