Yeah, there is. You BOTH simply stop all contact, and give trivia a break for a while. Better yet, find another trivia night? In a city in Australia, there is  sure to be every other unoriginal pub with that event on offer, at least weekly. There is always the propensity for romantic, and sexual feelings to occur with someone, and this os what you aren’t, or won’t acknowledge. Just one of those egocentric attributes of humans I guess. Or continue on with the current interactions. It isn’t a crime, shizer, it isn’t even remarkable as you obviously aren’t the first person to act on these common, natural feelings. The courts, family and the rest are full of them. I just signed up and commented here, Ugh. 

I find that very description of time moving further away from them last being alive very poignant . My loved one was abducted & murdered in the national capital 20 years ago this year. That resentment at the community started just after her wake finished and remains ever present to this very hour. It’s a strange and unfamiliar feeling which equal parts anger&unknown feeling. And even though it’s impossible, you’d feel a certain entitlement in demanding the whole city has to just hit PAUSE, like on everything. It all just has to stop until we can know what happened for our loved one to end up murdered in a most foul scenario. You owe us that much don’t you think? Ridiculous it may be, but it is a feeling none the less. And you don’t get control over what feelings come to you.