@simple simon sorry, who's "we"? That language was not offensive and can be used by the poster as they please. 

I didn't expect this to resonate so much but it really did. Especially wanting to live in a little familial cave, which is something I find myself craving so much and was starting to wonder if my desire to just block everything else out and spend time together was symptomatic of some sort of crisis. Life feels so noisy right now, and they are all I need sometimes. 

@mamamia-user-10757870 your article is not factually correct.

It's really important that you familiarise yourself with what your public hospital can offer as they are all different. My public hospital has private rooms with ensuites only. I was able to access the Midwife Group Practice with one midwife for all appointments and my water birth. The food was very ordinary, but I was home in 24 hours and the midwife was on my doorstep the next morning. I have no doubt the comfort and service offering in private care is exceptional. My own experience of the public system was great, without the private costs.

@lizzybus sure, but if you go private you've paid the taxes and the private costs, so it's a moot point.