Hi Jules,

I think this different for everyone depending on their relationship with their estranged parent. For me it has been over a year, and I personally didn't feel steps 2, 3 or 4, there was no guilt or wondering or grief. I know that if I continued that relationship I would just feel more drained and have allowed someone to keep being abusive towards me. It was the best decision I ever made. 

All the best to you.