Ironically, leading your son to think that viewing pornography is lewd or indecent is much more likely to cause harm to their psyche because it leads to feelings of guilt and shame about both their desires and therefore generally anything related to sex. I'd suggest that education, health, and imparting some basic positive values (honesty, empathy, compassion, etc....) are the areas parents need to be mostly concerned with ensuring that their sons are imbued with. But becoming involved with monitoring and/or interfering with their pornography viewing (beyond perhaps mentioning a few times that it should be done in moderation) is just not something a parent should be overly concerned with.

So here are your two choices for your teenage son - pornography coupled with masturbation, or actual sex with a girl. Ask any trusted man you know and if he's honest he'll echo most of what I've written in this comment. And BTW, wanting to look at pornography (or actually looking at it) doesn't make your son shameful or despicable - that desire is intrinsic in our d.n.a. and it's an exceptionally powerful desire, along with the desire for sexual release (i.e., orgasm, either through masturbation or partnered sex). And those desires are amplified for teenage boys because of the immense amount of testosterone that they're bodies are experiencing during the teenage years. I'm not suggesting or excusing boorish or uncouth male behavior at any age is acceptable, but I am providing some perspective and context for what boys are enduring at this age. As long as your son is generally fulfilling his responsibilities in the household, and has positive attributes and behavior, is it really that dreadful that he's looking at some online pornography a few hours each week? Obviously, if he's locked in his bedroom several hours a day doing that, of course that's a problem - but honestly, boys probably spend 10-20 minutes a day masturbating, so is this really something to be alarmed about? (continued on next post.....)

Again, not something I support anyone under the age of 18 watching - but my point is that not all recent pornography (i.e., in the last 5-10 years) is the prototypical stuff that is representative of what was produced back in the '70's and 80's (Deepthroat, Debbie Does Dallas, etc....) - all terrible and reprehensible crap. Finally, I noticed that at least two of the previous commenters were women - although I respect their views, it's my opinion that presuming your son isn't interested in this material and/or isn't accessing it without your awareness is delusional. Perhaps at this age he isn't, but in the near future (certainly by age 12-15) he will be. If he can't satisfy his urges through viewing pornography, he'll do it another way, which is by actual physical experience (i.e., intimacy with a girl). And pretending that you can force a boy to "stifle" his sexual urges through any method (religious values or moral values) is more delusion. If I had the choice, I'd much prefer that my son was occasionally viewing pornography on his phone or laptop and masturbating than actually engaging in sexual activity with a girl (if he was under age 18). (continued on next post.....)

Not necessarily sex, but at least a curiosity about the anatomy (breasts, etc....). I personally did not have an interest in that when I was that age, but I know that several of my classmates did, so please consider that not every boy will develop that interest at that age - but some will and therefore will seek out pornographic materials. Also, in case you've never actually done much researching of pornographic websites, much of what's available to view are actually videos of couples (married or otherwise) filming themselves engaging in sexual activities - not professional actors performing in choreographed scenes. I'm not suggesting that makes it acceptable for anyone under 18 to access and view, but rather I'm attempting to mitigate some of the criticisms of pornography as far as the "unreality" of it or that it's an abuse, objectification, or denigration of women. BTW, I personally loathe the professionally produced pornography because it's ridiculous and unrealistic and therefore isn't appealing - the "amateur" material is much more appealing because it's real couples doing what many people do in the privacy of their own bedrooms. (continued on next post.....)

First, I want to be entirely clear that I'm neither promoting or encouraging viewing of pornography by anyone under the age of 18. However, all the previous commenters need to accept the fact that teenagers will always find a way around rules or laws banning certain behavior or activities. For example, alcohol use, buying tobacco or vaping products, and also any illicit drug use. I'm not suggesting that there shouldn't be some attempts by parents to monitor or discourage those activities or behaviors, but if we're realistic about these issues, if kids really want to find a way to obtain or engage in them, they will, regardless of the values and rules parents have inculcated them with. Please note that if this mother took her son's cell phone away, do you think that would prevent him from accessing the pornography? Of course not - he would simply go to a friend's house and watch it there. At least under the current status, his mother can monitor it since his phone is linked to hers. Most parents probably don't even have that arrangement, so consider that before crucifying her mercilessly. As far as a boy that's age 10-11 and their interests, that's actually not that unusual of an age for them to begin being curious about a female body (continued on next post......)