I gave up a baby for adoption over 30 years ago who recently tracked me down on Facebook after taking a DNA test. I have no interest in meeting her in any way.  I don't need advice, or therapy, and I am perfectly content with my decision. Giving her up was the single most painful experience of my life, and also one of the best things I've ever done. With me, she would have been raised by a teenager, living in poverty, with no support system. With her adoptive parents, she grew up with all the advantages she would never have had with me, and I'm so happy for that. She graduated from a prestigious college, works at a prestigious job and is happily married. Her family is loving and close. We exchanged information about our lives, and pictures, via email , and that was as far as I will take it. She completely understands. Biological mom: There is absolutely nothing wrong with you if you don't care to have a relationship with the baby you gave up and don't ever doubt it.