@Never your Friend Looks like you don't know the difference between high maintenance and having standards. While there should be some flexibility in friendships and a willingness to work through issues, some of these are straight up red flags for shitty people. Someone who talks about other people to you IS also talking about YOU behind your back. The kind of person who doesn't put in nearly the same amount of effort as you do into the friendship obviously values you less than you value them. That's the kind of toxic (and narcissistic) person who people need to run away from.