Instead of 'Why does my younger sister hate me,' I finally googled 'The eldest daughter in a dysfunctional family' and found myself in Katie Couric's piece. Her last-and I mean last-call to me was a surprise attack flatly saying my upcoming cervical radiculopathy surgery is insurance fraud-the percentage of damage from a three-car distance rear end has been met-and 'the rest of us have to pay for it.'. With very little information, she again assigned subhuman behavior to me worrying about insurance rates which she hasn't paid in 25 years. Whether it's political views , taking the jab or parenting, she always managed to make awful calls to me. Since my brother's widow has become her friendly looking glass, she has no reason to examine her behavior and years ago declined mutual counseling. What is hard is most the big family get togethers are at her waterfront home, often with a yacht ride included. Spendthrift generosity sucks some people in. . I get along  with the rest of her family as well as my