Question: How long can I keep a sunscreen without it ‘expiring’? Thanks Kel and Leigh! Love your work

I'm having this SAME dilemma Kelly. I'm 31 and told myself this would be the year. After massive health issues with me (depression, anxiety, eating disorders, burnout - all at once), our first years of marriage have been hard. My hubby is a gem, stayed through it all, and I am so thankful. Now, we both just want to be happy and settled, but I also feel like I want to have one just so I don't 'miss out' on that experience. Having said that, I'm SO worried all those things will come back and tbh, I don't like small children. Hubby is GREAT with kids so that's not the worry - it's just I feel so non-commital. I'm a teacher and well aware of how 'joyful' children are - both sarcastically and actually. Joyful and painful at the same time. Teaching Year 9 is the best contraception.

The worry about fertility is totally there for me and I'm putting the pressure on myself. Hubby said he's happy to try just so one of us breaks the 'tie'. But, is that a good enough reason to have kids? I don't know...I want to go to someone's graduation one day and have family Christmases so I guess I need to have a family for that? But then, nothing in the first 5 years of a child's life really interests me. 🤷‍♀

I think we'll try for one, make sure it's not a spoiled brat somehow and try and make it manageable. And if we can't naturally or with minimal intervention, we won't and we'll live overseas or have an adventure. I don't want it enough for IVF. I think iso has shown me that who you live with and your relationships are so important - and my career and experiences are 'good enough'. I don't need brunch all the time and I'm sure I could get used to once every month or two instead of every weekend. I've definitely done some cool stuff and I'd like to do more, but I think for the travel bugs out there that's never going to go away.

I don't know if that's helpful, but I hear you and you're not alone.

PS I love You Beauty and how honest and candid you are. It's refreshing.

I would like to nominate by beautiful mother-in-law Lynne. She already has 4 kids, including my husband, plus the strays that come and go. Every night she feeds them, acts as a counsellor and a friend and teaches her kids to love and help others. The house is never clean, as she never has time for that, because people are more important. She does it tough but wouldn't have it any other way. When I started dating her son, I came from a messed up family and I credit a large portion of how I turned out ok to her years of advice and love, which are still continuing. She's jsut had cateract surgery so could do with a smile. I would be forever grateful if she could have this :).