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elishatraill June 30, 2023

I sat on a the computer last night for a friend who’d spent all day trying to get tickets for the Sydney show and had to go to work. That Ticketec waiting room is the stuff of madness with the 10 sec countdown.  I was losing my mind and I only  tried for a couple of hours until notification of the sellout came through.  Kudos to anyone who’s been doing this all week! But agree with the comments below, the demand is entirely artificial.

elishatraill September 30, 2022

@laura__palmer Why would you want to share intimate parts of your body with people who can’t easily terminate the interaction with you if it makes them uncomfortable?  That seems very creepy to me, and is why I think workplace dressing is different to dressing for other public settings.  This seems like a blind spot for a generation who otherwise have a very sophisticated understanding of issues around consent.  

elishatraill September 29, 2022

@mamamia-user-482898552 I had forgotten about that! There was some crazy stuff on tv back then…

elishatraill September 29, 2022

@mb1111 I agree with your point about body parts needing to be covered on both sexes, not just women.  I’m as uncomfortable with those tight pants that are designed show a guys bulge in a workplace as I am with miniskirts. I don’t think it’s fair to make people see intimate parts of your body in a setting that they can’t remove themselves from!  To me that’s what makes the workplace different.

elishatraill September 28, 2022

@rush well said - it’s like they think consumers can’t read an ingredient list.

elishatraill September 28, 2022

@laura__palmer Sure, norms around professional attire change over time and are inherently subjective (& influenced by setting).  I personally love the more casual/less corporate shift.  But I can’t think of a single situation where a mini skirt would be appropriate at work, ever, regardless of how it is styled 😬 Hard to have people focus on the good work you’re doing if they’re wondering if you’re going to flash them.  

elishatraill September 24, 2022

This is utterly heartbreaking to read.  I hope one day you understand that you deserve better than what you’re getting here.

elishatraill September 21, 2022

@laura__palmer love this response.

elishatraill September 20, 2022

@laura__palmer And the thing is, if you do get married and then discover you want to have sex with lots of other women, there’s this amazing thing called divorce! No need to run around behind your partner’s back.  The sense of entitlement required to think you deserve to have it both ways blows my mind…  

elishatraill September 12, 2022

@mamamia-user-482898552 very well put!  To be fair, there are some male examples (“tech bros” as an example) but it’s nowhere near as pervasive as the “___ girl” phenomenon.  I wish people would understand that self-commodification is still commodification - and human beings deserve to be treated better than that.

elishatraill September 11, 2022

No… everyone does NOT need an “aesthetic” now. It’s sad that self-commodification is so pervasive.

elishatraill September 11, 2022

I often joke that making friends as an adult is absolutely like dating, but without the sex.  It takes deliberate effort!  And there’s nothing wrong with that - it doesn’t make you weird, or desperate or anything else negative.  Good on you for getting out there 😀 

elishatraill September 6, 2022

Wow, some of these are absolute shockers!

elishatraill September 3, 2022

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and de-stigmatising ECT. 

elishatraill August 30, 2022

@rbk someone with misogynistic, outdated views on older women and zero self awareness, apparently 😂 like a “poor bus services” cracks me up! You’re 100% correct though.

elishatraill August 28, 2022

This is a really thought provoking article.  I wonder if there is a variation in expectations of consumers between city vs regional areas.    Anything under $15 (Asian food or otherwise) is insanely cheap where I live.  We’re not exactly awash with culinary options so if a restaurant has good food, they can pretty much charge what they want.  There is almost nothing I wouldn’t pay for good bahn mi! People complaining about $8 for it blows my mind.  

elishatraill August 25, 2022

I use the same pronunciation of foliage as you do! If we’re wrong, at least we’re wrong together.  

elishatraill August 25, 2022

@rush I feel you with the flybuys at Kmart 😂 was pretty much the only reason I joined!

elishatraill August 21, 2022

@km absolutely. And then at the other end of the spectrum, you can have kids who are 18 for most of grade 12 because they started later.  It’s so tricky to judge because as you point out, problems can emerge further down the track.

elishatraill August 20, 2022

My god, I love this article with the burning passion of a thousand suns… thank you for encouraging women to aspire to a relationship that meets their needs and not apologise for it.