Why did I relate SO MUCH to this? I am female with a female partner. Just met a new male friend two months ago who just recently came out and identifies as bisexual. Anyway, within a month of knowing this new “friend,” we’ve been inseparable. We instantly clicked and were on the same page in so many levels. Same sense of humour, same likes and dislikes, and etc. We’re no longer together (he was only here in my town for a month of work) but we still message everyday. Got to a point where I’m confused like it’s a “this is definitely more than friendship but we’re clearly not romantically attached” kind of thing. Was very hard to explain until I read this article and now it makes a lot of sense.
I can personally relate to this, except the guy I like isn’t married (yet). I have a partner, no kids. He has a daughter. It’s easy to avoid things escalating if you want to. I know it’s wrong so I just avoid being in situations involving just me and him. No issues with group gatherings.